Forums » Relationships » Relationships » We were on a breaaaak!!!!
|
We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 7/11/2009 12:52 PM GMT
|
Total posts: 191
First post: 5/7/2008 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
sorry, i love that quote from Ross in Friends!! |
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 7/11/2009 1:46 PM GMT
|
Total posts: 1348
First post: 12/8/2007 Last post: 19/11/2009 |
I think a break can be useful - give yourselves some space and time apart to assess what you both REALLY want. As long as you are using the time do reflect properly, I don't think it can be anything but useful. But (and isn't there always a but!) if you are using the notion of a "break" to let your partner down gently then that's not fair. If you haven't made up your mind though, it seems sensible to me. At this point in time do you think that your relationship issues are solvable? If so, then maybe use this time to work out how. xx "and that's all i have to say about that..." |
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 7/11/2009 8:24 PM GMT
|
Total posts: 13
First post: 3/11/2009 Last post: 19/11/2009 |
I agree breaks can be good, if there are problems that need adressing time apart can give you time to reflect on them and work out where your going wong. However too many breaks would suggest something is seriously wrong. Missing him is good, on a break form my bf i realised how important he was to me ( it took me a while) but i also thought to myself if i dont get him back now, he may meet someone else and i couldnt take that risk. I realised now i was just scared, and since that break i have out mself into the relationship 100%. what were the problems? was he unhappy too? are the problems just everyday issues or is it real issues that are rocking the relationship? I hope you find the answer, real love is so hard to find. I know now that when it comes along you should fight for it and if he is the one, then its through the rough patches you should work harder because its the bad days that make the good days so good.
S1984 x
|
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 9/11/2009 7:43 AM GMT
|
Total posts: 10
First post: 26/10/2009 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
Breaks can be very good. Sometimes a break can make you both realise how much you miss each other and need to sort your problems out.. Also they can make you realise that you do have some problems that cant be sorted or wont... However in the long run it is good to help you figure out in your head how you feel. How is he taking to the break? B. x |
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 9/11/2009 10:39 AM GMT
|
Total posts: 4654
First post: 25/6/2006 Last post: 11/11/2009 |
i dont know if breaks are good, you would need to define to each other what a break would mean for both of you. its a step away from breaking up you may both need to be very honest and open with each other. its its just time apart then this can be good for you but you both need to be on teh same page.
do-it.org
be the change in your life |
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 9/11/2009 1:13 PM GMT
|
Total posts: 2407
First post: 1/4/2005 Last post: 19/11/2009 |
Sorry but I agree with Ceammi and Igloo. I dont think that breaks can be very healthy for a relationship, and in my experience tends to lead to further detriment down the line for the reasons of why it happened and how to prevent it happening again. You both need to use the time wisely to establish where the issues are and whether they are things that can be fixed. Just remember that you cant change the person, only the situation. |
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 13/11/2009 1:41 PM GMT
|
|
Total posts: 10
First post: 13/11/2009 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
for me i found breaks dont work, because with me and my ex there was the question as to was it therefore ok to see other people , so were we just friends. I actually moved back to near my parents on a 'break' and utlimatly it ended because he slept with someone else, which i guess in fairness if its break then its not cheating, however i resented him for it that he didnt want to be with me enough to just have some time to himself. therefore we split as to him the break was time to see what else was about, for me it was to have some space for each other. |
|
|
Re: We were on a breaaaak!!!!
posted at 13/11/2009 6:45 PM GMT
|
|
Total posts: 2094
First post: 10/10/2005 Last post: 13/11/2009 |
god, i could have written that post a few weeks ago! |
Forums » Relationships » Relationships » We were on a breaaaak!!!!
We have 572149 discussion board members
In total there are 290 active users online, 2 members and 288 guests