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How Tiredness Kills Your Sex Life....well, gives it a dead leg anyway.

posted at 10/7/2009 2:43 PM BST
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Does anyone else feel too tired to F C UK (that was actually one of their t-shirts once, believe it or not)?

I've often struggled with Just Being Too Tired, generally like, for ages now (as in, years). Life is so busy, and full, and active (I'm not complaining, like), that by the end of the average day (y'know, up at 6.45am, work at 8am, finish about 5ish, bit of house work, followed by few hours down at rowing doing training, or doing private jobs, or cleaning/cooking/whatever else it is which eats your time, blah de blah blah) I'm zonked. Like, totally wiped out. I'm not a fan of evening sexing particularly anyway, but espesh not when I've got matchsticks holding me eyelids open. Just not...like...sexy, really, is it, being half way to asleep. As a result, our sexing seems to be reliant upon the weekends, and if we're busy then....well, you get the picture.

Its all about me really, he'd do it anytime. and I want to, like, i really do, but I loathe tiredness, but find i'm almost always...tired.  I need intravenous pro plus or summat though.

I dunno what I'm looking for out of this thread really. Someone else to say they feel the same? Don't know.

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posted at 10/7/2009 2:56 PM BST
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have you had your iron levels checked? you could be aneamic...other than that, maybe just a bit of time out?

sorry for not being particularly helpful x

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posted at 10/7/2009 2:59 PM BST
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um, not for a while, i used to get them done when i gave blood though, and it was always fine. I've been tested for underactive thyroid too, and it was all clear.

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posted at 10/7/2009 3:03 PM BST
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It's been a while since I've been in a long-term relationship and had to fit in a life/work balance thingy, but yeah, I know exactly what you mean.
I will echo what Frejja says though and look into improving your diet and upping B vits, folic acid, iron and protein. It's quite incredible how whole foods can increase your mental and emotional energy.
Obviously, by getting enough sleep and relaxing properly, you'll have more motivation for sex and fun. Sorry if this reply sounds like textbook advice from Boots.com, but a few monts back I felt like a zombie all the time and I could barely make it home after work without wanting to cry because I felt so deeply exhausted. I cut out sugar, and started taking some Bs and iron, and within about a week I noticed a huge improvement.

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posted at 10/7/2009 3:07 PM BST
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Really? just from vitamins? i've never tried them, so maybe its worth a go. I guess my only hesitation is I've felt unnaturally tired for donkeys years now, during whiuch time my life has been through all sort of fluxes (dietwise, activity wise et cet era), so I've just come to the conclusion that it actually is just natural for me. meh. I exercise loads (which is meant to make you less tired?!) and don't eat a terrible diet. Probably could ditch sugar more though. and caffiene.

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posted at 10/7/2009 3:11 PM BST
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it's easy to be deficient smales. I thought my diet was pretty varied, but looking back it really wasn't. I also upped vit c too. Without it, you can't absorb iron.
If you're exhausted, as opposed to just feeling tired, then I'd definitely get a blood test, and I would make a real effort to look closer at your diet.
And yeah, I swear, I took some days off work because I literally didn't have enough energy to get undressed before bed. It frightened me. A week later, and some vits, no sugar and better food, and I felt much much better.

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posted at 10/7/2009 3:21 PM BST
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I'm never that bad. Its difficult to know whats normal and what isnt, iykwim, because I'm only me, I dunno how other people feel... but I do end most days thinking 'i just cannot stay awake'. Given the opportunity I would happily sleep for an extra couple of hours a night (on top of the good 8-9 i get), plus probably an hour at least in the afternoons. I do a big training session most saturday mornings, and have to literally programme in a long sleep in the afternoons, because otherwise I'm almost comatose (well not quite, but confused, bleary, headachey, unable to concentrate). The quality of the sleep i get is good, I just don't feel its enough...like, ever. I day dream about getting more sleep almost every day! IS that normal??? I've been to the doctors about this, had the low thyroid test, which was negative, then felt too embarrassed to keep on about it, felt like I'd been making a fuss about nothing really.

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posted at 10/7/2009 3:35 PM BST
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I'm going to dig out the vitamins thanks to this thread, plus (hopefully) get lots of sleep & a varied diet this week at the inlaws, and see how I feel by next weekend.

There are reasons why I'm feeling crap (changing timetable, changing weather, fed up with work), but I don't think it should be this bad...

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posted at 10/7/2009 3:38 PM BST
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Smalex I always feel tired too. There is probably no point in the day where I would say no to a snooze... Since being pregnant I have been worse too! I have a good diet and do exercise, have been tested for all the usual things... as you said I guess it's just me. When it comes to the old hokey pokey sometimes I feel too tired to be bothered and am probably a bit half-hearted, I much prefer it in the morning to be honest. Most nights if MrPink doesn't make his move before 9pm he's had it!! Laughing

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posted at 10/7/2009 4:41 PM BST
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Smal - do you think maybe you're getting a bit too much sleep?

I know that probably sounds bonkers, but I used to be like that - tired all the time, exhausted by 9PM and just dying for my bed, at which point I would crawl into it and would be out by the time my head hit the pillow.  I'd then sleep through until 7AM, so a good 10 hours most week nights.

As you can imagine, I was wondering how on earth I was going to function, post-baby, needing as much sleep as that.  But the funny (and I do not mean ha ha) thing is, I now can't get to sleep until about 10.30PM.  This guts me, since once I drop off, my night basically then consists of a series of power-naps, broken at 2-hourly intervals due to the baby, so being able to go to sleep earlier would be wonderful.  

When I wake in the morning, I feel like I'm trying to drag myself out of quicksand, but by the time I've had my shower and a cup of coffee, I feel relatively normal.  Don't get me wrong - I haven't had a full night's sleep since December and the thought of one full night makes me want to cry hysterically a little bit, but my body now seems to actually need less sleep...

Having said all this, I don't really know what to suggest, as my method of waking every couple of hours is clearly not the way for any sane person to go.   Perhaps you could force yourself to stay up a bit later during the week, indulge in some conjugal relations while you're at it, and see if your body adjusts?
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