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This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 6:09 PM BST
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Total posts: 440
First post: 22/1/2008 Last post: 13/8/2009 |
After a long time of being off and on me and my ex are finally, definately OFF, and I went off to Ireland at the end of last week for a postgraduate conference. The last thing I expected to happen at a bloody conference was to meet a boy, but...I did. He's gorgeous, very intelligent, friendly and funny and we hit it off straight away. Nothing much happened bar a little snog but he was very complimentary and made it clear he wanted to see me again. So we've been bantering over text about me going over to Dublin at some point. He's just sent one saying that he has a free ticket for a 3 day music festival on July 10th and would I like to go? One part of me is thinking sharing a tent with a guy I hardly know for 3 nights after a recent break-up is not a sensible idea. The other part of me is thinking 'a free ticket to a festival and a nice man'... Thoughts? 
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Re: This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 6:16 PM BST
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Total posts: 6392
First post: 1/3/2007 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
Go. You say you and your ex were on and off for a while so it's not like the love of your life has just dropped a bombshell on you and you are heartbroke, reaching out for the nearest available thing. Plus this guy is a fair distance away so if things dont work out it's not like you are going to bump into him again. The only thing you do have to consider is how you would react if you went, came home thinking I do like him and it fizzles out, so you have to be realistic and think he could just be thinking music festival jolly, if you are okay with that then go for it. You could always take your own tent. |
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Re: This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 6:50 PM BST
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Total posts: 376
First post: 29/4/2009 Last post: 8/11/2009 |
yep, with louise, it's the being in a tent far from home with a boy alarm bells that are ringing here. MOST men are nice, decent, responsible, respectful and wouldnt push things if you werent up for it.....but you dont want him to turn out to be the sort who's going to presume and implied *yes* purely cos you will be alone with him. hmmmmmm. I think I'd get to know him a bit better first before sharing sleepingbag space TBH. are any of your friends going along to this concert, or at least mutual friends incase he turns out to be a total loser and you need to have a second option for somewhere to sleep? |
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Re: This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 6:53 PM BST
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Total posts: 440
First post: 22/1/2008 Last post: 13/8/2009 |
Thanks, I can't believe I'm talking myself round to this |
I think a few of his friends are going so we wouldn't be totally alone which would be very un-sensible. You're right Kinsk, but on the other hand if I was ever going to see him it would have to be for a weekend stay so I'd always run the risk of him just seeing it as a jolly and me wanting more. I think I'm prepared for that possibility...well, as prepared as you ever can be.
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Re: This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 7:32 PM BST
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Total posts: 290
First post: 17/4/2009 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
I think it's a bit soon. You've only met him once, and he's already arranging for you to stay over!! I'd thank him for his offer, but decline. If he's that keen, he'll understand and keep in touch. Savvy Your opinion of me is irrelevant and unimportant. |
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Re: This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 7:40 PM BST
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Total posts: 30799
First post: 18/3/2003 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
Sharing a tent with my husband (if I had one) would be a step too far for me, let alone a stranger! I would go because it sounds fun and you deserve some, but I would stay in my own tent.
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Re: This is a bad idea...right?
posted at 29/6/2009 8:55 PM BST
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Total posts: 7106
First post: 25/4/2006 Last post: 4/8/2009 |
I'd go. In my own tent. And tell him you're going in your own tent and that there's no funny business happening.
I'm extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the way.
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