So that's that then :(
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 19/8/2009 11:40 AM BST
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Total posts: 1186
First post: 30/8/2006 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
Thank you for all your friendly advice. Especially from people who have never posted to this thread before. I'm feeling a little better some days and crappy others. Just think I need new hobbies so Im defintely going to try and find some. I was thinking of doing some sort of dance thing but I wasnt sure.I would also love to take up horse riding..but Im not sure if you need to start that young? Went to work and the date guy was still nice to me. So I dunno, defintely not going on anymore dates with him but maybe he would be good as a friend... I think he just wasn't my type to begin with really. My ex before that ex is still in touch and I went for lunch with him, just as friends. He says he wants to prove to me that he has changed and that he'll wait for me as long as it takes. But I still dont know. All my friends that know him say he has changed and is a "lovely" guy now. But who knows eh? Need to see, still heart broken but a little better :) x Sheesh :) |
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 19/8/2009 6:44 PM BST
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Total posts: 1367
First post: 12/8/2007 Last post: 24/11/2009 |
glad you're feeling a bit better C_G...one day at a time hey? Re: ex-ex boyfriend, could you be at danger of a rebound here do you think? x "and that's all i have to say about that..." |
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 20/8/2009 9:50 AM BST
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Total posts: 30799
First post: 18/3/2003 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
I would stay clear of this ex-ex CR - people don't change that much, no matter what his friends say, and he was an ex for a reason. I wouldn't recommend getting involved with anyone again; you need some time to lick your wounds and recover from this. Have you heard from any of the holiday friends at all? xxx |
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 20/8/2009 10:56 AM BST
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Total posts: 1186
First post: 30/8/2006 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
Probably a rebound thing...just feel so alone just now its unbelievable. When we split up I was 17 and he was 19 and it was because I met ex. I'm now 20 and he's 22... so I don't know if it was a lack of maturity...I mean he didn't drive etc and had no steady job, both of which he has now. Probably still isn't a good idea though! Ahh i hate relationships so badly right now :( I thought I would be going out with friends more, but in this case boyfriends truimph friends :( I have heard from the other couple but not from my ex best friend (sounds so childish!) and her partner. For living so close to her I havent even set eyes on her and usually i seen her almost everyday. I just want to move on so badly now, I wish to have ex's image removed from my brain, it's doing my head in :( I just dont know what to do with myself anymore...I hardly see my friends because they seem obsessed with their boyfriend (don't know if this is because I'm single that I notice they spend a lot of time or if Im just jealous)! Sheesh :) |
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 20/8/2009 11:03 PM BST
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Total posts: 4141
First post: 23/3/2004 Last post: 4/9/2009 |
Aw hunney I just read this whole thread and my heart goes out to you x x My ex broke up with me in January and a week later I was made redundant (id already gone through an abortion end of last year and thought me and my ex had got closer because of it, but 3 months later he ditched me out of the blue). And to rub salt in the wounds, my best friend and her fella moved in together all loved up and well lovely tho her bf is, i cant remember the last time we organised a girls night out and she didnt bloody bring him along!! (in fact when our other friend got dumped by her bf of 4 years, my best mate invited us over for a girls night in to take her mind off things a bit and yet when we arrived my mates fella was there?? How is that a girls only night? And isnt that just a tad insensitive having your bf there knowing your mate has just lost hers???!!) Despite you thinking that you arent doing very well, i think you sound very strong considering what youve had to put up with hun. The meer fact that you are talking through with us on here rather than shutting yourself away and not talking to anybody is a sign of strength in my eyes. People cant expect you to just "move on" when you go through this kind of heartache and i'm not going to lie, its gonna take time hun and lots of it. But you WILL eventually start to feel stronger in yourself again and as someone once told me, the best thing about hitting rock bottom is the only way is up. Sorry to hear your holiday turned into such a disaster. I am dumbfounded at your mates bf and your mates behaviour. Disgusting. What kind of mate is that? And as for her fella, he sounds about 5. He was probably jealous because he felt you were getting more attention from her than he was. I think finding yourself a hobby of some kind is a good idea. And its a good way to make new friends and it will take your mind off things a tad. Not completely, but you will find you will have 5 minutes here or there where you dont think about him and those 5 minutes every now and again of not being as depressed are better than being depressed 100% of the time. And over time those 5 minutes will grow into 10 minutes, 15 minutes and so forth until you find you can go almost a whole day without thinking about things/him so much. Give yourself time. I'd definitely leave the whole dating thing for a while. You need to focus on yourself right now and getting your confidence and self esteem back. Stay single for a bit and give yourself time to grieve the loss of you relationship and repair some of the damage its caused before you even start thinking about being with someone new. I know the thought of having someone there as a companion/bf is tempting but id seriously get yourself back on track first and get yourself to a point where if he ever came crawling back asking for another chance, rather than jumping at it you can take control and say "actually im not sure i want to be with you". xxx "0121......Do One....." "Stonker & Marcus sitting in a tree...k..i..s..s..i..n..g...." 
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 31/8/2009 11:05 PM BST
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Total posts: 1186
First post: 30/8/2006 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
Thank you DJG. I'm sorry that you have went through a horrible time too. Hoping that you are feeling better. I have kept to everyones advice and dropped the whole dating idea. Realised I dont even feel a thing for anyone, even for people I have liked in the past etc. The guy from work asked me out again which I told him politely no, but for some reason he text me back saying that he would phone me on Wednesday and arrange a date with me  Even though it was a definite no I gave him! I'm going to my cousin's twenty first this weekend which I'm looking forward to, meeting up with a load of old friends so that should be good :) Hoping that everyone is well, thank you for all your advice over the last few months. x Sheesh :) |
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Re: So that's that then :(
posted at 3/9/2009 6:00 PM BST
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Total posts: 1186
First post: 30/8/2006 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
I'll try my best Lilly :P Just trying to make myself feel a little better, I'm getting my hair and make up done tomorrow, so just trying to make myself excited for it.Went into town for the first time in ages...and it was terrible so hopefully tomorrow shall be much better :P x
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