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Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 25/6/2009 7:19 PM BST
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First post: 12/8/2007
Last post: 24/11/2009


Yes, CR, you will get there, although it won't always feel like it...good days and bad days and all that...

How are you today anyway?  Hope it's a "good day" ? xx

"and that's all i have to say about that..."

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 26/6/2009 12:31 AM BST
Total posts: 1186
First post: 30/8/2006
Last post: 22/11/2009
Today was a very strange day, my cousin found out about it and she phoned me up all about it. So telling her upset me again but then tonight I went out with friends and felt fine... My friend told me my ex found out about the split and is happy because he wants me back but I just don't want to go backwards... shes trying to convince me though :( x

Sheesh :)

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 27/6/2009 12:39 PM BST
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Why is your friend trying to convince you to go back out with your ex days after this split?! What lunacy is this? Not a wise idea and politely suggest to friends like this to keep schtum in future. I agree with the others, going on holiday when you've just split up is not a good idea. It is like cutting a big hole in yourself, filling it with salt and then rubbing it constantly. As is any sort of contact.

I know how very hard it is to not contact the person who would normally be the immediate recipient of all news, good or bad, but you do need to break this. Can you ask a friend (not the "get back with your ex!" one) to be your "substitute" and anything you want to text/email to him, you send to her?

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 27/6/2009 12:45 PM BST
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Last post: 25/11/2009
the best thing to do after a split is remain single until you're completely over your ex. relearn to enjoy your own company, do things you enjoy, learn to put yourself first again rather than jump back into the life of coupley compromise. i'm sorry you're hurting. :(

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 2/7/2009 5:09 PM BST
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First post: 30/8/2006
Last post: 22/11/2009
Hi there. Thank you for all your replies. Been trying to keep away from the computer since that's where I seem to get most of my info lol. Well it's now three days before my the said holiday. Ex is not going and I'm not sure I am either. Been weighing up the negatives and positives and so far I've came up with seven for each, I just don't know what to do :( I wish someone would tell me but I know it's my decision. Felt a little better at the beginning of the week but because I know I need to make my decision soon Ive felt worse. I know I would enjoy the holiday but I'm scared I'll feel lonely which I feel is a given. Feel so lost right now :( x

Sheesh :)

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 2/7/2009 5:16 PM BST
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Last post: 20/11/2009
i know how you feel babe. Sometimes I'm quite calm and reassured, but most nights (they're the worst) I feel like the bottom's dropped out of my world. x

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 2/7/2009 5:41 PM BST
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First post: 30/8/2006
Last post: 22/11/2009
Exactly Wau Wau sister. During the day I'm fine I feel on top of the world (well not really but you can get the jist) but well at night it's a total different kettle of fish. I feel so lonely at night time :( I just don't know what to do about it, my friend told me not to be silly and to come but I just dunno. x

Sheesh :)

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 2/7/2009 6:19 PM BST
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First post: 12/8/2007
Last post: 24/11/2009
Would it help to post your pros and cons list?

Without knowing what you are thinking I am still tempted to say "go".  It's your decision of course, but even the sunshine in itelf can make you feel a whole lot better...

xx

"and that's all i have to say about that..."

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 2/7/2009 6:25 PM BST
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First post: 4/2/2004
Last post: 20/11/2009
and he won't be there, so that's something. I went on holiday with some mates after a split once. Although I was very miserable, it did make me feel a bit refreshed. Just tell them all you may me moping sometimes, and to allow you to be that way and not to worry.
x

Re: So that's that then :(

posted at 2/7/2009 6:44 PM BST
Total posts: 1186
First post: 30/8/2006
Last post: 22/11/2009
I will post my list and well you can see what you think lol. I know he isnt going to be there but those two other couples are and it just I dunno makes me feel ill :(


Pros

- Would get moneys worth
- May have a good time
- May clear my head
- Deserve holiday
- Wouldn't be achieving anything by staying here
- Not as if I'll see hewhoshallnotbenamed anyway

Cons

- Miss him badly will mope
- May get depressed because of coupleyness
- Have to go to sleep alone everynight
- Surrounded by couples constantly
- If I hate where I am I cant come home
- Far away from family and other friends
- May be spending more money on a holiday I wont enjoy

Sheesh :)

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