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Re: Taking Others' Advice
posted at 4/7/2009 1:29 PM BST
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Total posts: 6501
First post: 10/3/2005 Last post: 6/9/2009 |
Well I think your friends may have a point, they saw how hurt you were last time and how you had to completely rebuild your life, and also how fabulously you did that, and I suppose they are just worried that if you don't adress what went wrong last time you could find yourself back in that place again. And to most people, addressing what went wrong would involve spending a bit more time together and really talking/ working on things/ making future plans together. But like everyone else has said, you know yourself best and you know your relationship best and you know what will make you happy. As long as you're being really honest with yourself and this is genuinely what you want and not a case of having him in your life at any cost, then you can thank them for their concern, tell them how much you appreciate them worrying about you, but you really do feel that this is what you want and you have your eyes open about it. |
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Re: Taking Others' Advice
posted at 4/7/2009 1:41 PM BST
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Total posts: 7106
First post: 25/4/2006 Last post: 4/8/2009 |
In Response to Re: Taking Others' Advice: Time aside, is he making an effort? Do you feel like a priority even if he can't spend as much time with you as you'd both like? Posted by Miss Megs Yes. He's keeping the contact up, has picked me over his mates so he can see me and we're planning stuff for when the work's finished
I'm extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the way.
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Re: Taking Others' Advice
posted at 4/7/2009 1:47 PM BST
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Total posts: 15459
First post: 20/1/2005 Last post: 3/11/2009 |
I think that's the main thing. I had a LDR once and when he stopped making the effort when we were together, it meant that the wait to see him was no longer worth it, so I ended it. I think it's understandable given the history that your mates are concerned, but it's your life and only you can decide what's best for you. |
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Re: Taking Others' Advice
posted at 4/7/2009 2:00 PM BST
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Total posts: 2888
First post: 30/8/2008 Last post: 15/11/2009 |
You sound pretty sorted about it all and you've certainly been made to have a good think, by your mates - that's never a bad thing. I think Adora sums it all up, what she wrote. Re. the addition to my name - just something happened on here that tickled me - just makes me chuckle when I see it. You and I, shall be friends until we are old and senile. |
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Re: Taking Others' Advice
posted at 4/7/2009 3:23 PM BST
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Total posts: 81
First post: 2/6/2009 Last post: 21/11/2009 |
If you're eager to keep your independence then it'd appear you guys are roughly in the same head space. "Settling" is a strange term that people throw about. I've had friends worry about me settling for a guy with kids (dirty dirty nasty personal flaw!) while I heard a girl on a bus talking to a friend about whether to stick by the guy she'd just visited in jail because there were so few good men (yes I was listening fascinated, I won't lie). Ultimately it's for us to decide what we're willing to settle for, what our line of acceptable behaviour is. Our family and friends can give guidance but it's our choice. |
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