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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 2/7/2009 11:18 PM BST
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Total posts: 12944
First post: 29/1/2005 Last post: 10/10/2009 |
You pay rent and you have a right to a say... you don't pay rent and you don't. And whilst I can appreciate it's not a great situation - your needs come 4th... behind Mr Kiki and the housemates as they live there. Sorry Dude :-( |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 2/7/2009 11:28 PM BST
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Total posts: 23
First post: 29/6/2009 Last post: 2/10/2009 |
Yeah i'm with the housemates - although it sucks for you. I lived with 5 other people and one of them had a serious gf - to be fair we all had partners stay over at one time or another but she was pretty much living there, cooking in the kitchen and chilling out in the living room even when Dan wasn't home, using our bathroom in the mornings, meaning that there wasn't enough hot water for all of us. One extra person makes all the difference. Any chance you can move out of home and get your own place near to work and near to Mr Kiki? I guess the housemate agreed to move in with your bf, not you as well. Maybe there are certain things this housemate would be cool with - a key sounds like it isn't one of them. Maybe your bf can sit down with him and say ok, how can we compromise so that everyone's cool with this situation. |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 2/7/2009 11:50 PM BST
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Total posts: 541
First post: 21/10/2008 Last post: 2/11/2009 |
In Response to Re: Opinions on new situtation....: I certainly wouldnt allow any housemate of mine to give a partner keys...sorry. As you said, the old housemate didnt like it either. I would hate for someone to be able to come and go as they please. That stops them being a guest..... I also wouldn't be pleased about the partner being there regularly without the housemate. Living with housemates is difficult, and having partners makes it doubly as difficult. But yes, I think you're being a little unreasonable, although I understand your frustration. Posted by chocolatejo I have to agree with you Jo. Unfortunately for you Kiki, the house isn't your home, it is a home that your boyfriend shares with other people and you are a guest. From the sounds of it they are not happy about you being there so often, hence the whole not having a key thing. If you don't pay to live there you don't have any rights to have a key, to stay over all the time or come and go as you please. I understand your frustration, I live in a house share myself. If this issue has come up with you staying over and the keys at your boyfriends previous house, I am bit surprised he didnt mention the restrictions and I guess the inconvenience it would mean for you before he decided to move in again with them somewhere else? |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 12:44 AM BST
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Total posts: 2423
First post: 14/1/2008 Last post: 15/9/2009 |
I agree with the other posts, they're paying the rent and all the bills so it's their house and their say. When they get home they're only expecting their mates to be around, not gfs as well which would make them less comfortable in their own home which isn't fair. Staying over 3/4 nights a week seems like a lot to me, especially if you're not contributing to bills. It might not seem like much but the extra water, leccy etc all adds up. Maybe offer to contribute some money for bills would make his flatmates happier? |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 8:07 AM BST
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Total posts: 28301
First post: 31/8/2005 Last post: 20/9/2009 |
I'm afraid I agree with everyone else. IMO, staying over in someone else's home for 3-4 nights a week is excessive and it sounds like the housemates have had enough.
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 8:16 AM BST
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Total posts: 4940
First post: 19/12/2006 Last post: 29/10/2009 |
The amount you're staying over, you should be paying rent and the landlord might be interested to know about it. Why should you have a key? If you want to live with Mr.Kiki then move in and pay rent (or get a place together). I wouldn't be happy with all and sundry having a key to my place and I wouldn't be happy with a non rent paying frequent guest who, as someone said earlier is pushing up water (etc) costs! And I wouldn't be happy about you being there when he isn't - it's NOT you're house. Sorry but you're wrong here. 
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 8:27 AM BST
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Total posts: 1699
First post: 9/5/2008 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
How long have you two been together, why'd he move into a new place that was less convient for the both of you, why's has he continued living with someone who clearly doesn't want you to be able to come and go as you please, why didn't he move in with you? His housemates are right you have no rights unless you start contributing to the rent, the fact you live at your parents further aways from work is not their problem. Has your boyfriend got a key to your parents, if the answers a no because they'd probably hit the roof, then why should his housemates feel different. Also who ever said it can invalidate contents insurance this is true. |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 8:42 AM BST
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Total posts: 4613
First post: 3/3/2005 Last post: 20/11/2009 |
I agree with everyone else and to be honest I think you're taking the p a little. You said in another thread that he does your washing for you, I'm guessing this isn't at your parents house. You're pretty much living there, it's time to start coughing up. If it were my flatshare I wouldn't be happy at all. I stayed alot in my OHs houseshare before we moved in together and I always paid my way, helped with cleaning, bought communal stuff for the house, cooked dinners, etc and nobody had a problem with it but I wouldn't have felt comfortable being there without my OH or demanding a key. |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 9:17 AM BST
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Total posts: 23890
First post: 21/6/2005 Last post: 11/11/2009 |
Sorry Kiki, I agree with the others (and the housemates). Out of interest, have you ever house shared before? People pay alot of money to rent, and its their home. an extra person between 3 has a big impact, in terms of everything really- the electric/gas/water/bog paper you use, the space on the sofa, the time in the shower, blah blah blah. I house shared at uni with 4 girls. One had a boyfriend who used to stay over 4/5 times a week. It did get on our nerves, tbh. Esp. when she started to ask us to modify our behaviour to accomodate him. It wasn't his home. It was ours. Theres no way I'd give you a key. No way at all. I think you ought to climb down from this, possibly stay over a little less, and work at getting on with his house mates, not making demands, otherwise this could all get ugly, and you might find you're not welcome at all. |
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Re: Opinions on new situtation....
posted at 3/7/2009 9:37 AM BST
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Total posts: 4159
First post: 27/6/2005 Last post: 23/11/2009 |
In Response to Re: Opinions on new situtation....: The amount you're staying over, you should be paying rent and the landlord might be interested to know about it. Why should you have a key? If you want to live with Mr.Kiki then move in and pay rent (or get a place together). I wouldn't be happy with all and sundry having a key to my place and I wouldn't be happy with a non rent paying frequent guest who, as someone said earlier is pushing up water (etc) costs! And I wouldn't be happy about you being there when he isn't - it's NOT you're house. Sorry but you're wrong here. Posted by kinky boots Completly agree. Sorry Kiki but I think you are asking far too much and dont understand. Maybe if you had your own place you would understand where the housemate is coming from but this seems to me like another time when you are taking everything for granted and expecting too much. You stay there half the week if not more and yet dont contribute towards bills which you are making higher...... id say no to giving you a key too... and id be asking Mr Kiki for a contribution towards the bills, Jeremy Osborne: Stop pissing on my bonfire. Mark Corrigan: There is no bonfire! Jeremy Osborne: That's because you keep pissing on it! I hate the new bag !! |
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