I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 3/7/2009 6:28 PM BST
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Total posts: 1059
First post: 20/5/2008 Last post: 2/8/2009 |
the date isnt gonna happen, he hasnt really contacted me for the last few days, i texted him the other day and he politely texted back. However i think hes playing the field cause from what i was told by him about his ex she was flirting with guys, cheating on him etc so i feel since leaving that relationship hes out to make a point to her cause she hurt him. we had arranged to go out tonight, i havent heard anything and im certainly not chasing him, i already tried once this week and it went all wrong. oh well im upset cause im so fed up of being hurt by people, so got my malteasers |
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 3/7/2009 9:49 PM BST
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Total posts: 939
First post: 12/8/2008 Last post: 11/11/2009 |
Its a case of better out of it. Remember how you were unsure to start with.... Well you were proved right. At least you didnt get involved with him and it could have been really painful if you would have got close to him. Leave him to his rebound games. He sounds like he is not over his ex. When you meet someone who is right for you, there wont be all the uncertainty and game playing. |
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 3/7/2009 9:53 PM BST
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Total posts: 1059
First post: 20/5/2008 Last post: 2/8/2009 |
thankyou, everyone can hae a malteaser, i think its hurt me cause ive never been treated right by a guy, im the end of someones game everytime. i have so many trust issues cause of it. |
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 4/7/2009 11:04 AM BST
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Total posts: 939
First post: 12/8/2008 Last post: 11/11/2009 |
Sweetheart I have been the rebound woman a few times so I know all about game playing. Some guys are really good at covering up their feelings for their ex and getting out there all set to replace them. Thing is you havent allowed this guy to use you or to mess up your head so you are learning.... Just by acknowledging that he hadnt been single long and taking on board things he has been saying about his ex with the gameplaying shows that you are aware and perceptive to his behaviour. Just look at is as a lucky escape. It always stings when you are ready to meet someone and the chemistry is so obvious and everything else is messy. See it as somthing positive and be glad you found out now. Give yourself a pat on the back for not being draw in. xx |
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 4/7/2009 2:55 PM BST
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Total posts: 2888
First post: 30/8/2008 Last post: 15/11/2009 |
Blimey, the guy didn't ask her Katy to move in with him or profess un dying love and a life time of committment to her.. She met a chap on a 'dating site' - clue's in the name, he's talking and dating with lots and lots of people - thats what happens. Using the inernet web to meet people requires one to be of sterner stuff - its not for the feint hearted ! You go from 0 to 60 in relationship terms, in zero seconds and straight back down again - its the very nature of the beast. Toughen up Katy, play the field and give as good as you get - or go through an 'introduction' agency if you're looking for more. You and I, shall be friends until we are old and senile. |
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 4/7/2009 6:20 PM BST
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Total posts: 745
First post: 5/12/2008 Last post: 21/11/2009 |
Bad luck Katy but onwards and upwards! I've been on a couple of internet dates recently and I've made myself promise I will not get excited about any of them until date #3. It is as Mr M said the nature of the game. I've had some shockers actually, might be worth a separate thread. I was thinking earlier today it's a lot like job interviews really - I was out of work earlier in the year and went on about 2 or 3 interviews a week for 3 months. Got dressed up, wound up, answered the same questions each time, tried to convince them how great I am..nervously waited to hear back. Exactly the same with dating! After I'd been on about 10 interviews I lost the nerves and I had all my "I'm great- give me a job" speeches really well rehearsed and started really enjoying them. I got tonnes of rejections and after a while it didn't even get me down as much - I was on to the next application & interview prep before I had a chance to worry. In my mega-waffly round the houses way I'm just saying the more you do it the more you relax into it and the fretting eases and you'll enjoy it. Go on loads more dates! And it's not men treating you badly, don't think that lovely, it's just the way things work out sometimes. xx
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 4/7/2009 7:25 PM BST
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Total posts: 1059
First post: 20/5/2008 Last post: 2/8/2009 |
In Response to Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!: Blimey, the guy didn't ask her Katy to move in with him or profess un dying love and a life time of committment to her.. She met a chap on a 'dating site' - clue's in the name, he's talking and dating with lots and lots of people - thats what happens. Using the inernet web to meet people requires one to be of sterner stuff - its not for the feint hearted ! You go from 0 to 60 in relationship terms, in zero seconds and straight back down again - its the very nature of the beast. Toughen up Katy, play the field and give as good as you get - or go through an 'introduction' agency if you're looking for more. Posted by Mr.Mannering*wishes she had a sheriff's badge* Love the sarcasm! To be honest i was over emotional and tired yestday due to not sleeping and work problems which i sadly have to face on monday as im in charge of the department. So i think it was kinda like the last straw. I'll be honest i wasnt always 100% sure anyways, he wasnt the greatest catch, i think i was more annoyed by the fact he didnt have the decency to just say im not that interested in you, but then again im the rebound girl, plus scarily i look the spitting image of his ex  thankyou for the comments girls and ive been out and had my therapy today, i went a shade darker with my hair and i love it and went clothes shopping which too be honest is so much better than a relationship anyday 
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Re: I like a guy, but hes not long been single!
posted at 4/7/2009 8:05 PM BST
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Total posts: 6639
First post: 9/11/2003 Last post: 25/9/2009 |
Glad to hear you're sounding more chirpy today, KA, and I know it's painful when things don't work out in the way you hope with certain dates but everyone else has given great advice which I definitely agree with. It's important to try not to take things too personally at this stage as when people start dating again, they come into it with all sorts of previous baggage from previous rellies. Obviously, you hope that they've dealt with it when they meet you but in some cases, they just haven't and are using dating as a confidence booster and maybe nothing more. You'll meet a great guy for you, KA, I'm sure of it. |
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