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Re: Lies about Boyfriends past
posted at 10/7/2009 9:14 AM BST
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Total posts: 12944
First post: 29/1/2005 Last post: 10/10/2009 |
In Response to Re: Lies about Boyfriends past: The truth is most blokes lie because girls dont like the truth. He probably thought you would get upset so told a few fibs. Not the worst crime in the world. Posted by PreacherMan So it's OK if women do the same? lie about being on the pill and trapping a man in Fatherhood? How about if a woman got pregnant, had an abortion and didn't tell the bloke so he didn't get a say in the matter? She probably thought he would be upset, so told a few fibs... Not the worst crime in the world... |
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Re: Lies about Boyfriends past
posted at 10/7/2009 9:45 AM BST
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Total posts: 23890
First post: 21/6/2005 Last post: 11/11/2009 |
Are you sure the facebook stuff isnt all bravado? stuff he wrote home about, making him look like 'the man'? I dunno, just a pondering really. |
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Re: Lies about Boyfriends past
posted at 10/7/2009 10:52 AM BST
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Total posts: 6855
First post: 4/2/2004 Last post: 20/11/2009 |
In Response to Re: Lies about Boyfriends past: In Response to Re: Lies about Boyfriends past : It's not that necessarily for me, so much as someone paying for it; seeing a woman as a bottle he can empty himself for. A transaction, not a human being. And yes, paying £2 for a poor desperate woman in a deprived country is just vomit-inducing. :( Posted by Lily Exactly. Nowt to do with me associating sex with love and closeness. |
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Re: Lies about Boyfriends past
posted at 10/7/2009 2:50 PM BST
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Total posts: 150
First post: 20/11/2008 Last post: 20/11/2009 |
Everyone has a past but I absolutely can not stand liars. When will men understand that lying doesn't protect women or make something less painful, because when we find out, we hurt even more and the whole thing just becomes even more complicated than it ever was in the first place. I agree, some people don't like to talk about past sexual encounters because some girls will feel jealous/insecure etc and it's all a bit unnecessary because it's the past and shouldn't affect how you are as a couple now. BUT if a guy doesn't want to discuss this, that's all he's got to say, not lie and say "only one woman"!! However I would expect someone to tell me up front if they had seen prostitutes, this is very different to having a one night stand with a random girl. If a man sees a prostitute, this gives a clear indication of his character and how he sees women. I would worry that he was ignorant towards the problems with prostitution and what situation these poor women are in. I know people are using each other during one night stands, but to pay for it and the circumstances that these prostitutes are in puts a whole different spin on the matter. The lies would bother me a lot, but the prostitutes would be a deal breaker to me. Have you asked why he felt the need to use prostitutes? Is it something he did a lot?
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Re: Lies about Boyfriends past
posted at 10/7/2009 10:53 PM BST
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Total posts: 17
First post: 27/5/2009 Last post: 28/9/2009 |
In Response to Re: Lies about Boyfriends past: Everyone has a past but I absolutely can not stand liars. When will men understand that lying doesn't protect women or make something less painful, because when we find out, we hurt even more and the whole thing just becomes even more complicated than it ever was in the first place. Posted by x_Sarah_x Yeah, totally. When someone lies to me I feel that my intelligence is being massively insulted because I pretty much always pick up on what's really the truth and what's not just by reading someone's body language and general countenance. I'm with most other women on here when I say that I would much rather be told the harsh, cold truth than be hurt even more when I realise that something I was made to believe was truth was in fact a complete fabrication used as an attempt to wrap me up in cotton wool and keep me quiet. I really can't stand it. I'm thinking about the original post to this thread and, like the OP, I would be gutted about being lied to and finding out about prostitutes. I think you're asking for trouble if you delve too deeply into a close one's past though. You have to remember that people grow and change with their experiences. Personally I never ask questions because frankly I neither want nor need to know about past encounters. When you think about it, us women are always obsessed with things being good and proper and anything in a relationship always being done by the book and I think this scares men to a certain degree because they're never quite sure what the right thing to say is when probed about anything emotional or personal. I'm not condoning sleeping with prostitutes because I think paying a woman for sex is completely degrading to both parties but I do think that asking your boyfriend about his past really must have put him on the spot and that he lied because he didn't want to disappoint you by revealing himself as a previous man whore. To put a positive spin on this: the fact he did try to cover it up possibly shows that he's serious about you. |
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