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First "Date" shyness!

posted at 5/7/2009 11:44 PM BST
Total posts: 31
First post: 5/7/2009
Last post: 11/11/2009
Hello everyone, I'm new here.
I am getting nervous about a sort-of First "Date" that I have next week. I recently met a nice guy through a mutual friend, at a show they were both performing in. I told my friend I liked this guy and he passed on the message to him; we then contacted each other through Facebook. The guy I like is definitely interested in me too, and he invited me back to see their show so we can have a drink afterwards. I am going along next week so it's kind of like a First Date but not really as it's not going to be just the two of us there. I'll be seeing our friend there too, and the guy I like will be performing. I was supposed to go to the show with another friend but she can't make it now so I'll be going on my own. I don't think that's a problem as I can just watch the show and chat to the guy in the break and afterwards.
I am just feeling really nervous and shy about it! I know he likes me and I like him in terms of physical attraction - we don't know each other very well at all. But I know through our mutual friend that he is a really nice guy, he's single, and we have a lot in common as I am also a performer, plus we live not too far from each other. Our mutual friend will hopefully have told the guy that I am nice too!

Any advice about how to be more relaxed on a date? My friends keep saying Be Yourself but I am always so shy when I first meet people, it takes a while to come out of my shell. I worry he'll just think I'm boring! I haven't been on the dating scene for about five years, although I was recently seeing someone casually (who I met on an internet dating site), and with him there was instant chemistry when we met but nothing much else, he's just been a kind of FWB guy for me!! I have been on one other blind date with a nice guy recently but I just didn't fancy him so it didn't go any further.

Thanks everyone x

Re: First "Date" shyness!

posted at 6/7/2009 8:28 AM BST
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Last post: 27/11/2009
It sounds as though you have a lot working in your favour already, your both clearly interested in each other... it honestly is just about being yourself and treating it as a chance to get to know him better. Have fun :-)
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Re: First "Date" shyness!

posted at 6/7/2009 1:55 PM BST
Total posts: 202
First post: 18/3/2009
Last post: 11/11/2009
Absolutely agree with loveme.  Just take some deep breaths, try to relax and enjoy yourself.  It sounds like this could be really fun.  You won't have the pressure of meeting in a pub or something and that awkward 'what shall we talk about now' moment.  You can talk about the show and how great he was, and also about your performances etc.

Good luck - let us know how it goes!
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Re: First "Date" shyness!

posted at 6/7/2009 5:53 PM BST
Total posts: 31
First post: 5/7/2009
Last post: 11/11/2009
Thanks guys! It's a stand-up comedy night in a pub so I will hopefully be feeling more relaxed after the show when he and the other acts will have made me laugh all night! I saw him perform the night we met and he is really funny. Have been planning my outfit today, I got a nice new top and am wearing it with jeans and little heels so not too over the top but feminine and a little bit sexy! Still feeling nervous but trying to turn that into feeling excited instead!! x

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