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Desperate Need Of Friendship Advice- I Have A Problem!!
posted at 9/1/2009 4:56 AM GMT
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Total posts: 3
First post: 9/1/2009 Last post: 9/1/2009 |
Hi everybody. I was wondering if you guys can help me with a friendship problem im having. We are a group of friends. 5 girls to be exact at ages 16 and 17. my sister is one of the four girls and im the fifthl. the friendship was going really smoothly until me and my sister enteredt university because we went a year earlier than our other 3 friends. because we no longer go to school with them, we havent been talking. so it was my friends birthday and we decided to get together. 2 of the friends are not allowed to go out at certain times so they couldnt come. so it was me, my sis and the friend who i will call hannah. after the day we went out together hannah suddenly cut me off and stopped talkin to me even though i left her a couple of messages and called her a couple of times. after that she began writing some nicknames on her msn that said insulting things which that she later admitted to me were directed towards me because she thought sum of the things i had written which were not insulting in any way but actually i had just advised a friend to move on and leave bad people behind the way i did and she thought i meant it towards her. i knew that she was directing the insults at me but regardless i talked to her on msn one day even though she wud go online and ignore me.so i talked to her and acted like nothing was wrong and she admitted to me about the msn messages and ignoring me and stuff. i even planned a girls day out which no one bothered to even tell me they cudnt make it. then the same thing happened again. she stopped talkin to me. and the other 2 friends one of whom ill call sara and the other mary. sara is great we always talk and share funny things and give eacother advice. mary never talks to any of us expect hannah so i dont really talk to her like its not a big deal. one day hannah called me and we discssed sumthin that sara wants to do b/c shes angry at hanna and mary too for ignrong her. she had actually called me only to knwo if i had called her which i didnt and then we go into the subject. during the phone call she repeatedly asked me where were gonna meet and i told her i dunno. finally i got angry and i told her that she shud be asking sara this question not me b/c the only question she ever had to ask me was where the thing i planned was gonna be rthat she didnt even bother calling and saying shes not cuming, but she didnt need to repeatedly ask me where this is gonna be. so she did these weird laughs like shes forcin them out and she told me to chill. so i told her i got to go and i said bye and she said bye and we never talked after that again. i am certain now that i nio longer want to be her firend. but the prob is that if i delete her off msn and facebook without telling her i did so im going to feel like i really didnt end the friendship.at the same time i dont want to call her up and say o i need to talk to u bout our friendship i want to break it off because its a pride thing. like i dont want to seem like i care so much to bug her bout our friendship cuz it seems like she doesnt care and ill look like im dying to talk to her or be her friend. also i dont want to end the friendship first becuase it will seem like im making problems when supposedly we have "none". i prob will do it if i have the right motivation, ideas and advice., its a new year and i really love myself for who i am and im more than ready to let go. but its pride that is holding me down.. i cud email her and ask her for a really small meeting where i could end it off. or i cud just email her that im endig it without havintg to meet. what do u guys recommend? also any tips on how to end it off. THANKS ALOT!!! PLEASE HELP!!! ps. sorry its a long post |
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posted at 9/1/2009 8:27 AM GMT
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Total posts: 3442
First post: 11/12/2005 Last post: 14/9/2009 |
what do u guys recommend? Paragraphs :cmdunno: Sorry, but that post is just too difficult to read. Try taking out some of the "he said/she said" stuff and text speak and making it a little (a lot) shorter and you may find you get more replies. (If this "going to university a year early" story is to be believed) |
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posted at 9/1/2009 8:50 AM GMT
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First post: 11/12/2005 Last post: 14/9/2009 |
Plus, don't you have to be 18 to post on here? Indeed. House Rules handbag.com aims to be a helpful resource for our readers. It is a place for fun, informative and interesting chat where readers can share their experiences and opinions. Please note that only users who are 18 years of age and over are allowed to register and post on handbag.com. Reported. |
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posted at 9/1/2009 4:33 PM GMT
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First post: 26/4/2005 Last post: 27/6/2009 |
That reads like horse racing commentary. If your genuine, I would say ignore her and the others that have left you out, the transition from school / 6th form to uni is massive and you will find you change a lot, so dont worry it will all seem like childish nonsense within a couple of months. |
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