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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 2:06 PM BST
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First post: 1/3/2007 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
I'd be inclined to go along the isn't it a small world line. Or innocently say how fantastic did you meet him of whatever site it is, I saw him on there when I used it. It's up to her then if she wants to ask him.
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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 2:07 PM BST
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First post: 4/2/2004 Last post: 20/11/2009 |
In Response to Re: Bit of a quandary: Why's he on a dating site at all if he's in a relationship? I'd say yes, it is proof enough. Anyway, if there's an innocent explanation, what does it matter? Posted by Lily I agree. If there's nowt to hide, there's nowt to worry about and no one gets hurt. I'd want to know that's all. I think I'd tell her in a very friendly email, or I'd give her a call and explain the last thing you want to do is cause trouble, but you like her and thought she deserved to know, and fingers crossed it's all lovely and innocent and everyone stays happy. Besides, she's a friend – you've been talking to her for years and you know her well enough to be concerned for her welfare. |
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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 4:43 PM BST
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First post: 11/6/2005 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
In Response to Re: Bit of a quandary: Why's he on a dating site at all if he's in a relationship? I'd say yes, it is proof enough. Anyway, if there's an innocent explanation, what does it matter? Posted by Lily I still visit the dating site I registared on the last time I was single when I get an email.. doesn't mean i'm up to anything. If it is innocent and is proven to be that.. then the OP will look like a troublemaker and those friendly hellos will turn into hard glares.. why do that to yourself? |
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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 5:06 PM BST
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First post: 18/3/2003 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
Because it is exceptionally dodgy for someone in a relationship to be on a dating site registered as looking for "dating". Besides which, the OP can say it very subtly, without making out that she's implying anything, as has been evidenced above. |
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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 5:16 PM BST
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First post: 11/6/2005 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
The only thing I read in the first post is that the guy had visited the site in 30 days.. that doesn't mean that he's looking for dates... he could have got a message via email and logged in to answer the message.. I used to thank them for the message but I was in a relationship now.. have a quick natter with them and thats that. Many dating sites will send you a random email from time to time. I didn't cancel my account.. I chatted on there to various guys briefly but I never did anything 'wrong'.. simply visiting a dating site does not mean that you're up to no good. |
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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 5:20 PM BST
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First post: 18/3/2003 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
His profile says that he's on there for "dating". Surely if you're in a relationship you just deactivate your account? I know you're not doing anything wrong but I do find it unusual that you still have an active account! If my partner was registered on a dating site and went on there to check messages and 'have a natter' with girls I can't imagine being madly happy. Anyway, there is still no harm in mentioning it to the girl in question. |
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Re: Bit of a quandary
posted at 6/7/2009 6:41 PM BST
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First post: 11/6/2005 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
Takes all sorts I suppose.. I personally see no harm and have had no bother in the past from it.. the bloke knew I chatted to men on there occasionally and didn't care.. he trusted me to behave and behave I did. Mind my profile wasn't set to looking for dates. Back to the topic in hand.. personally I wouldn't say anything.. sometimes a situation just isn't worth the aggro in my book. |
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