How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
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Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
posted at 10/7/2009 1:21 AM BST
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Total posts: 2601
First post: 5/10/2005 Last post: 24/9/2009 |
Sounds like you're both just being a bit rubbish about it, really. Is he invited because you knew him before your "thing" so therefore he was going to come anyway? Or is he invited because he's a recent fling? Basically: 1) Would he have been coming anyway, no matter what happened between you in a boinking way? If YES, go to 3) If NO, go to 2) 2) Unless you want him there cos you want to boink him again, tell him you'd rather he didn't come. End of. 3) Do you want anything further to happen? Does he? If NO, go to 4) if YES, go to 5) 4) Tell him it was a one time thing and while he's welcome, you don't want it to happen again, so if he's coming he needs to find somewhere to stay. End of. 5) Are you feeling awkward cos you want him to be there, but it's not serious enough to tell him he's on a sure thing by telling him he can stay at yours? If YES, go to 7) if NO, go to 6): 6) Pretend you have a spare room and tell him he's welcome to stay there. 7) Pretend you have a spare room and tell him he's welcome to stay there. Simples. |
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Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
posted at 10/7/2009 12:04 PM BST
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Total posts: 30799
First post: 18/3/2003 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
 That has made me laugh a lot, which is what I needed. Thank you!I've found his number from a bill :stalker: and texted him saying he won't be imposing as lots are staying over, but I've offered him alternative arrangements and also said he can camp in our paddock as we have a tent of sorts. And then (being brave) said if he wants to come up on the Friday and stay with me he would be more than welcome. I hope I haven't made a complete knob of myself. I don't really know if he likes me or not In That Way. He did at one point, but men can change their minds so quickly! (He was invited sort-of before we got together, but only just... I would have invited him even if we hadn't flung) And don't even START the whole "which dress" thing again ... just when I'd convinced myself...!!! 
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Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
posted at 10/7/2009 1:06 PM BST
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Total posts: 43
First post: 27/5/2008 Last post: 2/10/2009 |
as an adult - why dont you just act like one and ask him out right instead of going over what ifs in your head and on here? I am sorry to be harsh - but you sound like you are wishing this relationship to fail without giving it a chance and enjoy looking on the bad side of things... grow a pair and talk to him...? if you know him well enough to sleep with him I think you may be able to have a conversation...
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Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
posted at 10/7/2009 1:29 PM BST
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Total posts: 5999
First post: 7/5/2004 Last post: 16/10/2009 |
In Response to Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation: . I was kind of hoping he'd come up on the Friday evening so I could see him but I won't ask him, I think I'll just leave him to it.Posted by Lily this is the most ridiculous thing ive ever heard. lily sorry but you should just be honest here. you are not the only one who could get hurt but so what , people pick up and move on. there is no point in playing games here you will get a lot further if you just tell him exactly what you want. as displayed above. its emotional maturity to put your feelings out there and people actually do respect it believe it or not, its flattering. eta, just seen your latest post, good. glad you told him . phew. maybe now you can move forward and stop worrying! what will be will be! honesty is a good quality. etaa brilliant post pcme! eh? |
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Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
posted at 10/7/2009 3:26 PM BST
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Total posts: 30799
First post: 18/3/2003 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
I do agree with you who say I'm a wuss. I am. It's silly how much "courage" it takes me to do things other people do no problem. Anyway I've done it now and I'll see how things go! |
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Re: How to avoid a potentially embarrassing situation
posted at 10/7/2009 3:50 PM BST
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Total posts: 2011
First post: 10/1/2005 Last post: 3/11/2009 |
Hi Lily, I'm so glad you sent that text and I'm actually alittle proud of you!! It's better to regret something you do rather than something you didn't do, although I'm sure you won't be regretting anything! :) Have a great birthday and a fab party! xxx |
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