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Advice needed dont have a clue what to do :(
posted at 6/11/2009 11:20 AM GMT
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Total posts: 719
First post: 31/1/2007 Last post: 6/11/2009 |
hey all I work as a freelance journalist for radio and newspapers. One of my bosses has become extremely pervy. He is very well known in the media, and has a huge profile. On halloween he texted me to ask me what i was wearing going out and then he said he wanted to see my outfit. this morning i asked him to come on my show, so i could interview him and he asked how would i pay him by cheque or by blow job!!! WHAT THE FECK ike, he knows my situation ( that i just lost a court case against someone who assaulted me and he is treating me like this!!) I love my job and i dont want to leave Ive worked hard to get here, any advice?? |
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Re: Advice needed dont have a clue what to do :(
posted at 6/11/2009 11:41 AM GMT
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Total posts: 2407
First post: 1/4/2005 Last post: 19/11/2009 |
That sounds like an awful situation. Is there anyone above him, or equal who you could speak to? Its out of order and he has no right to behave that way. If he has any contact, I would keep a log of text messages etc and report him. High profile or not, its most likely why he feels he can get away with it. You shouldnt have to leave your job, however as your freelance, are you contracted and able to move elsewhere soon-ish? |
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Re: Advice needed dont have a clue what to do :(
posted at 6/11/2009 12:14 PM GMT
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Total posts: 719
First post: 31/1/2007 Last post: 6/11/2009 |
Ya I am contracted to stay with his company where he works for the next few months and I love it here. I just dont know what to do. I dont even know who Id report him to, and I know if i did report it Id prob have to leave :( |
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Re: Advice needed dont have a clue what to do :(
posted at 6/11/2009 12:54 PM GMT
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Total posts: 4654
First post: 25/6/2006 Last post: 11/11/2009 |
well firstly i would pull him up on it there and then first, such as 'sorry i didnt hear what you said do you want to repeat you yourself, in a sharp tone.' or what did you say? show him you're really offended and he may learn his boundary i wouldnt reply to his texts from now on though, just becuase you work together doesnt mean you have to have a relationship outside work and texts are the grey area of things and can be interpreted in all sorts of manners. if that fails have a word with your manager so he might be present when you two are together they can monitor his language or behaviour. dont take it personally and treat him like a child if he behaves like a smarm.
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Re: Advice needed dont have a clue what to do :(
posted at 6/11/2009 1:05 PM GMT
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Total posts: 6855
First post: 4/2/2004 Last post: 20/11/2009 |
Have as little to do with him as possible. Keep your communication down to a minimum and don't ever be on your own with him. Don't use texts to contact him either. And next time he says something out of order, tell him straight that you don't appreciate his attitude and tell him to stop. Facking morons! |
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Re: Advice needed dont have a clue what to do :(
posted at 6/11/2009 1:51 PM GMT
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Total posts: 1
First post: 6/11/2009 Last post: 6/11/2009 |
I agree with the advice so far: Keep copies of any emails he sends, and store any texts. Record any spoken conversations you have that were inappropriate - write down what was said, where you were, when it happened, and whether anyone else was present who could confirm any aspects of your story. At the same time, make it clear every single time he steps out of line that you are not okay with it (although I also think not replying to texts is probably a good idea - try to keep your relationship as professional as you can in the face of his inappropriateness). If you carry on reinforcing the message he may eventually just decide it's not worth carrying on, and you won't have to make use of the evidence you stored. But you really should build up a consistent and full picture of everything that happened just in case you do end up having to take it further. I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope you are able to get through it without it impacting on your working life too much.
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