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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 3/7/2009 9:15 PM BST
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Total posts: 176
First post: 26/10/2008 Last post: 5/10/2009 |
I used to get comments all the time about how huge I was but then again I was huge  I remember one woman said to me in a jokey way once "you're big, what have you got triplets in there?". I just replied "no just twins". The look on her face was a picture. Used to get on my nerves when people who knew I was having twins used to say how big I was. I used to just reply "well I am carrying 2 babies"  |
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 3/7/2009 9:51 PM BST
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Total posts: 176
First post: 26/10/2008 Last post: 5/10/2009 |
In Response to Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...: Now the baby is here its the is it a boy or girl comments that get me, errr hello she has a pink blanket you moron. Posted by Dorkgirl Now this does get on my nerves. I had my two next to eachother in a trolley in tesco yesterday and 3 people asked me if I had one of each. They are identical twins!!!! |
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 4/7/2009 9:11 PM BST
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Total posts: 3438
First post: 24/9/2003 Last post: 7/9/2009 |
I've had 'Oooooh, you're so small', which is a bit annoying (usually coupled with 'are you eating?'). And 'Oh, where's your bump?' I mean, I was never a large lass so what do people expect, that I've doubled in size? I find it a bit personal. I mean, would they go up to someone and say: 'Blimey, that's a huge/small belly/arse/chin you've got there, luv,' while copping a feel?! I suppose they are just trying to make conversation but I like people saying things, like 'Oh, that's a nice bump' (without going on about the size) and 'congratulations' or just simply asking how I am. If someone commented on my bump saying it was big, I'd be so tempted to say: 'You've got a really big gob.' |
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 5/7/2009 10:10 AM BST
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Total posts: 5469
First post: 22/5/2006 Last post: 26/10/2009 |
Well, my bump was flipping mahoosive by the end, so not to have commented on it would have been like ignoring the white elephant in the room! I figure people are just making convo, and pregnancy and babies seems to get people worked up into such a state, that you can't avoid it. It's almost as if the bump is independent of you - the comments really are just about the bump and not meant with malice. I know that's not much comfort but once baby is out and you're back to your pre-preg self, it will all be a distant memory. :o)
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 5/7/2009 7:27 PM BST
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Total posts: 20327
First post: 11/6/2005 Last post: 22/11/2009 |
Sadly once you're pregnant you seem to become public property.. with my last pregnancy I got very large due to excess water and I tired of the comments 3 months before he was due. One girl I had to avoid in the end as I felt close to thumping her one... it was EVERY time I saw her she would go on about how big I was and how the baby was sure to be here by christmas (he was born in feb). Majorly irritating! |
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 5/7/2009 8:02 PM BST
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Total posts: 21918
First post: 8/2/2005 Last post: 16/11/2009 |
I make comments on people's belly (if I know them) and I hope I've never upset anyone by accident!I do stop myself touching them, even though I always desperately want to. I find pregnant bellies so amazing, and my hormones always react in a way that make me want to stroke it! I always mean with it love though! |
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 5/7/2009 8:18 PM BST
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Total posts: 2083
First post: 24/4/2008 Last post: 21/11/2009 |
I know what you mean ChocolateJo. I've never touched a pregnant stomach before and do have quite a curiosity about it. I mean I just find it so hard to believe that there are little babies in there! Saying that I would never think it would be okay to touch someone else's body, or even to ask really! If someone said to me "its kicking - look feel it" then I would, but for gods sake it is their body you would never try and touch someone's belly who wasn't pregnant! If I do comment on someone's pregnant appearance it would usually just be to say that it suits them / they look very well. There is something so attractive about pregnancy, its just so feminine. As they say, an everday miracle!
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Re: Sure, feel free to comment on my size...
posted at 6/7/2009 12:18 AM BST
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Total posts: 828
First post: 18/2/2008 Last post: 20/11/2009 |
Why do people lose tact when it comes to pregnancy though?... It's like they just see you as a baby-making machine or something! I mean, pregnant women do have feelings.. I try to be careful when talking to pregnant women; the most I tend to venture is 'When's it due?', 'Do you know the sex yet?', or 'Have you thought of any names?'; I'd never go 'Oh my god, you're massive, are you expecting triplets?!' (lol) I think the tact thing follows right through pregnancy and into parenthood though if you ask me; people seem to feel they have the right to comment on others decisions when it comes to pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, co-sleeping etc even if their opinion has not been asked for. This is even more the case for people who are already parents too IMO. |
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