2. The warm-up

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It's not just us women who like to be stroked, massaged and played with, men love it too and it's a great way of connecting with your other half. A head massage is a good place to start and easy to do, no matter what your level of experience. Think of how your hairdresser massages your head at the salon and spread your fingers on his scalp using the pads to firmly rub the head in circular movements so that the scalp moves in response. Massaging is also a great way of initiating sex if you're not used to coming straight out and asking for it, so let your hands do the talking and he'll soon get the message.