Is it possible to have hot, lusty sex in a long-term relationship? Tracey Cox thinks so and so do we. According to Ms Cox the key to developing a healthy sex life with your partner is identifying your own sexual style; taken from her book Supersex For Life, we reveal the five different sex personalities and what they mean for your sex life.
Energizers
Catch you on a good day and you’re an exciting, seductive creature who mesmerizes and dazzles your lovers with bucket loads of confidence, extraordinary technique, and unbridled enthusiasm. The downside is you’re a little self-absorbed and like to be top of the game in everything you do – and that includes sex. Your partner is lying there in a pool of sweat, announcing they just had the best goddamn orgasm of their life? You’ll find it hard to control a self-satisfied smirk. After all, it was you who got them there. Competitiveness also makes for unrealistically high expectations, so if something does go wrong - your erection dares not be rock hard or you’re not lubricating enough to flood the Sahara – you over-react, and this can lead to long-term problems.
Is this you?
Are you pretty much up for anything? DO you like talking dirty, watching porn, trying out sex toys, and having sex outside?
Do you dislike rules or compromise and feel sex is self-orientated? When you ask “How was it for you?” do you really mean “How was I?”
Do you see sex as a source of pleasure and fun, and as a great way to connect to your partner?
Good points: You’re highly motivated so you happily match with average or low sex drive people. You put the effort in to capture their interest and constantly come up with new things to keep them fascinated.
Not so good: God help an ungrateful lover who is not interested in making sex a priority or is unenthusiastic about it. You don’t mind prompting them but enthusiasm and attitude are everything. They also need to be technically adept to satisfy you.
Make sex better: Yes, yes, we all know you’re good at the whole sex thing but there’s no need to be scathing of partners who aren’t as experience. And no, it’s not acceptable to have a bit on the side just because your partner’s not putting out as often as you’d like. Another potential pitfall – “novelty” is your middle name so there’s a tendency for you to rely too much on sexual props. Sometimes you need to put down the toys, whips, porn and playthings and strip sex back to basics. Get naked, get in the missionary position, look deep into your partner’s eyes and connect.
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