Sex talk: how to do dirty talk

Sex talk and dirty talk is something of a tricky subject. What gives you the horn could have your partner in stitches, or vice versa. But handbag is here to help with sex tips from author and sex educator Midori, on \"aural seduction techniques\". If you haven\'t tried it before, you may well be deeply impressed with the power of your words.

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Blank canvas

Before you even open your mouth clear your mind. Lying back and thinking of England/work deadlines/ironing will make your lover feel about as sexy as a chewed shoe horn.

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Ditch the autopilot

Give your lover your undivided attention and they will feel wanted. Desire is a more potent aphrodisiac than any sex toy in any of the best-stocked sex shops.

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X-rated

Aural sex can be sizzling but it\'s not about using as many obscenities as possible. By being sensual, you can read aloud a telephone directory and still sound sexy.

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Literary help

To ease you in, you could read to your lover the naughty bits from literary greats like Thomas Hardy\'s Tess Of The D\'Urbervilles or Homer\'s The Iliad. Alternatively, try the erotic classic Story of O.

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Lost for words

You may not be ready to act out your wildest sexual fantasies but you can safely explore them in erotic story telling with your lover. What was it you wanted to do with that whipped cream?

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Apply the brakes

A slower pace of aural seduction says to your lover \"I have all the time in the world to seduce you.\" It also gives you time to think about what you are going to say next.

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Softly does it

Speaking softly implies a shared secret and adds to intimacy. Your partner has to concentrate harder to hear what you are saying - focusing their attention on you.

Build suspense

Pausing builds anticipation - what\'s going to happen next? It also gives your partner an opportunity to jump in and nudge the story/role playing in the direction they would like.

More than words

Say it like you mean it. If you say you want to rub chocolate all over their body and lick it off don\'t use the same tone that you\'d ask them to take the bins out with.

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Public thrills

At opportunistic moments when you are alone with your lover out in public, talk dirty. It could be in an empty lift or a work meeting room. You don\'t have to risk showing the world your knickers to enjoy sex in public.

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Text flirting

Ring your lover at work (or send them a text, picture message, etc) and tell them what naughty plans you have in store for them. They won\'t stop thinking about you all day. It\'s an old chestnut but it works!

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Preparation

If you want to tell stories in a sensual way, you need to get in touch with your senses. Spend 30 seconds a day focusing on your surroundings and how it affects your touch, taste, smell, hearing and sight.

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