Here's an exercise to do as soon as you can grab 10 minutes of complete privacy which will help you to see your body as desirable and beautiful as possible. So print it off and take it home for a revealing act of self-love.
Love your body exercise
Find 10 minutes when you can be alone in your bedroom, grab your hand mirror, strip naked and lie down on the bed. Relax. Now, holding the mirror, use it to look at specific parts of your body. Don't start with any Points of Paranoia you have (danger zones that you don't like looking at), start with neutral places like your face, neck, shoulders and arms. When you lie down, see how your neck joins your chest - look at the little hollows there. If you were a man, wouldn't you like to kiss that skin and trace your tongue over your neck? Look at your arms and soft skin of your hands - how lovely must it feel when you run those hands over your partner's body and wrap your arms around him?
Look at your legs
The soft skin, and how it gets softer as it goes into your inner thighs. Imagine running your hands along those legs - they must feel very soft and smooth in contrast to your man's hard, hairy legs. Imagine how he must feel when those legs go around his waist when you're having sex with him.
Now look at your breasts
Don't think about their size or shape - just look at your nipples. Run your hand over them and feel how they instantly respond.Imagine your partner sucking on them gently, feeling them stiffen in his mouth. Hot! Run your hand over the smooth curves of your breasts. Imagine his mouth is caressing every inch of them.
Look at your tummy
Feel how soft it is. You may feel differently towards your tummy after pregnancy but even if it's not as flat as you'd like, it still feels smooth and feminine. Look down and see how the skin changes as we approach your pubic bone - see how the hair starts growing there. Look at the way your legs open and how your lips are exposed. Slide a finger inside you and feel how hot you are. Put yourself in your lover's mind - how warm and welcoming must it be when he runs his hand over your vagina and feels how deep and slippery you are. Imagine his hard penis, and how it must feel for him when he slides himself inside you...
Look at every area of your body
From your soft, wet mouth down to the curving arches of your feet. You bring all this to the bed when you have sex with your partner. You are smooth and warm, soft and tempting, wet and luscious. He is lucky to have you! This is how your partner feels when he reaches over to you in bed next to him. He's not thinking, She's got cellulite on her bottom and I think I saw a varicose vein earlier.' He's thinking, 'Mmm, curves. Mmm, bits that stiffen when I lick them. Mmm, softness.' You are a contrast to him in every possible way, and that's why men's minds are absolutely fixated on having sex with us.
When you walk around in your everyday life, banish negative thoughts about yourself and your body. Remember how you look now. That's how you should think of yourself every day: that warm, smooth body with all its mysteries and temptations. If you can keep those thoughts in your head, you will exude sex appeal, as your movements will be slower and more fluid. You won't have the jerky, head-down walk of a woman who feels unattractive - you will saunter a bit more, swing your hips a little bit more, and pull your shoulders back naturally because it shows off your boobs.
Kate Taylor is the author of the Domestic Sex Goddess, available from amazon.com.
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