It’s very possible you could be falling for someone right now and not even realise it. We’ve all had that ‘D’oh’ moment when we realise we’ve been trailing around after someone for months, without really considering that they could be a potential love interest. Here are five signs that you’re chasing him without knowing it – do any of them ring a bell?
1 You hang out with him constantly, on his terms
It’s totally normal for girls to hang out with guys without being secretly in love with them. After all, lots of girls have their guy mates – gay or straight – who they love to spend time with, partly because they bring something different to the conversation and the social dynamic. But, don’t confuse that with being surgically attached to a particular guy ‘mate’, who you might have a crush on.
If you find yourself volunteering to stand at the sidelines of his Sunday five-a-side match and hand out oranges, or catch yourself thinking ‘Sure, I wouldn’t mind seeing the latest Vin Diesel flick with him’ then you might just have a secret crush. Don’t get us wrong – there’s nothing wrong with that either! Just don’t let it go on ages before you take action. Too long and it’s likely he’ll have noticed; then the question becomes, why didn’t he reciprocate?
2 You bad mouth any woman he looks at/goes out with
Is there one guy you know who never seems to go out with a woman who’s good enough for him? Do you find yourself telling your friends how he’s such a great catch, and he seems to be hopeless at finding a good woman? Or maybe you’ve noticed him looking a woman in a bar and you can’t resist telling your friend what awful hair and make-up she has?
Yes? Then maybe, just maybe, you should ask yourself why you’re so protective over this friend. Of course we’ve all thought at some point that our friends could do better in the romance department, but not constantly. Consider whether you wish you were that woman he was looking at in the bar.
3 You get annoyed when he doesn’t reply...
...to your text message, missed call, Facebook message and/or email. Ask yourself, if it was a different friend who’d not replied to your text message, how would you feel? Would you get annoyed or would you just think ‘Oh well, she’s probably busy’? If you care that much about this bloke replying to your text, then you should wonder how deep your feelings run for him.
4 You blow off a date to see him
Rain-checking a hot date because a bloke friend asked you over to watch The Apprentice final is a pretty big ‘you’re chasing him and you don’t even know it!’ sign. In fact, they don’t get much clearer than preferring to spend time in with him rather than out with another bloke.
5 Talking about him all the time
There comes a point when you like someone so much that you manage to squeeze them into every sentence you utter. ‘It’s funny you say that because Dave had a pet hamster too...’ or ‘Well, that’s nothing, Joe holds the world record for the biggest collection of bottle tops...’ Similarly, this phenomenon also happens to people in the first flush of a relationship (when everything about the other person is fascinating) and after a break up (when they still want to believe the other person is part of their life). If you’re not sure whether this is you, count how many times you mention ‘him’ during the course of an evening with friends. It’s also worth seeing how many times your friends either roll their eyes or exchange ‘looks’. If either number goes above two, you might need to confront your feelings.
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