The issue here isn't modesty - it's a consequence of low self-esteem.
Esteem levels can be different from person to person, and can change in an individual as a result of circumstances and experience. If you have low self-esteem, it means that they way you feel about yourself is negative. You may focus on your self-perceived weaknesses, and mistakes you've made - and fail to notice all the ways that you're otherwise awesome.
Those with low self-esteem can suffer from anxiety, stress, loneliness, and many have a tendency to feel low level depression.
But the good news is that there are things you can do to boost your self-esteem...
WAYS TO BOOST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
1. Realise that you are important
"The first thing you need to do is get comfortable with who you really are," says self-confidence coach Annie Ashdown. "Don't pretend to be someone else - fake is so last season. Write a list of the things you like about yourself and read over it every morning. Try to believe it and eventually you'll begin to feel it for real."
2. Make a fresh start
"It's time to get serious with yourself," says Annie. "Write down all the wrongs you've done to yourself and consciously forgive them. Either bare your soul with someone you trust, or, if it feels too uncomfortable, do it by yourself. Use a small candle as a symbol. Once it burns out, you have permission to move on with your life."
3. Be kind to yourself
"You wouldn't speak to your closest friends or their children in a cruel way, so why speak to yourself like that? Laugh if you make a mistake. Lighten up about your imperfections. Give yourself a break. If you saw a toddler learning to walk and he/she kept falling over you wouldn't berate them, you would hug them and champion them. Hug and champion yourself."
4. Take stock of your life
"How can you change what you are not aware of?" asks Annie. "Write a list of 10 strengths and 10 weaknesses. You may have met a lot of people but now it's time to meet you. Think about any compliments you have received over the years. Embrace yourself as you are right now, regardless of your past, mistakes or weaknesses."
5. Don't compare yourself with others
"It's good to look at qualities you like in others, including kindness, humour, discipline, passion, and motivation. However, remember that you too can develop those qualities. The only person you need to compete against is YOU."
6. Trust your instincts
"Unfortunately, few of us have been encouraged to trust our intuition and are taught to deny or disown our gut feelings," says Annie. "Learn to trust yourself and your inner voice, rather than running asking others to take responsibility for you. Follow your internal compass and watch your self -esteem rise."
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