That is just the question new film Don Jon is posing as Scarlett Johanson plays Barbara, a woman obsessed with the romantic ideal portrayed in rom-coms, tries to make it work with Joseph Gordon-Levitt's character Jon, a man who loves porn.
Being dubbed as a rom-com for modern times, we take a look back at some other films hailed as getting it right...
(500) Days Of Summer
Charting the stratospheric highs and lows of modern relationships, (500) Days Of Summer was a breath of fresh, frank air after years of gooey rom-coms.
Seen through the eyes of Tom (Joseph Gordon-Levitt), during the 500 days a quirky girl named Summer (Zooey Deschanel) goes in and out of his life, the film is about accepting how even failed relationships can change you (and how hot Jason Gordon-Levitt is).
Beginning at a break up, High Fidelity finds slacker Rob (John Cusack) shamefully contacting old flames to find out what went wrong in previous relationships. Slowly he realises how much he has been at fault and how he needs to make an effort in order to save his relationship.
One of our all time ever favourite films.
Bridget Jones' Diary
Ah yes, Bridget Jones became the pin-up for single thirty-somethings everywhere with her warts-and-all account of the bad habits, social embarrassments and post-breakup fridge raids.
Proving that the road to coupledom is not as easy (and graceful) as most rom-coms would have you believe, it is ultimately worth it when you find your Mr Darcy who loves you, just as you are...
When Harry Met Sally
Showcasing how romance can develop over time, When Harry Met Sally aims to portray relationships realistically from both the male and female perspective.
From apathetic acquaintances to loyal friends, and finally to the inseparable couple sharing their love story on the sofa, this is a classic.
Demonstrating that people now believe in what we are shown on a screen, Don Jon is a satire about two people who expect too much from each other.
When Jon (Joseph Gordon-Levitt) and Barbara (Scarlett Johansson) meet their attraction to each other is undeniable, but the unrealistic goals they have for each other causes strain. It's all about letting go of those pressures and accepting people for who they are. And Gordon-Levitt wears a vest.
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