Good sex doesn't happen if you accidentally make him feel rubbish with your 'left-a-bit, right-a-bit' instructions. The trick is to make him up his game without making him feel like a total idiot.
Make this psychological warfare work in your bedroom with these simple top tips...
1. Focus on what he's doing right
Naturally, we all respond better to positive praise rather than criticism, so focus on what he's doing right rather than what he's missing. If you need to tell him to change his tactics between the sheets, start with a complement and finish with a direction. This way he'll feel happy with his performance and even more determined to please.
2. Have an honest conversation about the female anatomy
If he's forgetful about foreplay it might be time to have an honest conversation about your needs. Tell him that it takes at least 20 minutes for a woman to be aroused enough for intercourse and what tricks you'd like him to try. Hopefully, he'll take the hint and put more emphasis on making you feel on your A-game.
3. Give him positive direction
Instead of telling him what to do use your hands, voice or eyes to help him realise what's working and what's not. Move his head or hips to an angle that suits you, moan when he's in the right place and stay silent if he's not or use your eyes to hold his gaze when he's on to a winner. You'll be surprised how effective these simple body language changes can be.
Will you be giving these tips a try?
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