What is a psycholagnic orgasm and how can I have one?

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It's mind over matter when it comes to achieving this time consuming climax...

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If you're a fan of role play and sexual fantasies (and have a few hours to kill) this could be exactly the type of orgasm to strive for.

A psycholagnic orgasm relies on the brain's ability to stimulate itself enough to create actual physical pleasure. There is no physical contact needed for this type of climax, which means you've got to rely on the power of your fantasies to turn you on.

It's far more common in women than men, so capitalise on it and start powering up your erotic thoughts. Here's how to make it work in your bedroom...

Step 1: Start off by completely relaxing your body and clearing your mind of negative thoughts, like work stress and gas bills. You might find that music allows you to reach this state easier or a long bath with aromatherapy oils.

Step 2: Build up the sexual tension with your partner pre-bedroom by flirting with each other, enjoying a nice dinner and/or massaging each other. You'll soon find yourself loosening up and getting in the mood.

Step 3: Once you're feeling calm and content introduce dirty talk. Then agree with your partner than for the next hour you won't touch each others' genitals or nipples (the biggest erogenous zones). You can hug, kiss, hold hands and massage each other in a non-sexual way as you talk but nothing more. It is the words that are the tool for arousal her and not the actions.

Step 4: By denying contact you are probably craving it even more, which is what makes this experience even more exciting. Aim for an equal balance of dialogue between you and actively feed into each others' fantasies. So, if he's describing a scene on a beach start talking about the waves and the feeling of sun on your skin. Perhaps a bit embarrassing at first but you'll soon get the hang of it.

Step 5: There's no guarantee that this sort of dirty talk will lead to a pscholagnic orgasm, but why not give it a go? All you have to fear are your own inhibitions.

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