Sex is a big deal in any relationship, so when problems arise in the bedroom it's easy to panic and assume you're falling apart. Sometimes simple factors like stress at work and weight gain can affect your ability to get busy.
So sit down, grab a cup of tea and really think about the physical and emotional factors that are getting you down.
Here are a few common reasons why lots of women go off sex to get your brain into gear...
Physical reasons why you're not in the mood...
+ Exhaustion and stress are two of the biggest factors. If work or family issues are dragging you down it's important to sort these out before you can feel confident and relaxed enough to be yourself in the bedroom.
+ Excessive alcohol or drug use over Christmas can drastically lower your libido, so stick to one or two tipples and cut out the harder stuff completely.
+ Menopause, periods and pregnancy all alter your levels of desire, so don't always assume there's something wrong with you before doing a bit of hormone research.
+ A bad lover usually results in zero desire to have sex with that person. Look into what's missing in your sex life and work on it together.
Emotional reasons why you don't want intimacy...
+ Feeling frustrated, angry or resentful at your partner or feeling guilty or ashamed at something you've done to them will probably make you feel more like crying than kissing.
+ Lack of self-esteem or body image issues can affect your libido. It's a cliché, but you kinda' have to love yourself before you can confidently let someone love you back.
+ If you don't communicate with your partner in the bedroom how can you expect him to know what you need to reach orgasm? Keep talking and don't assume that he should just know how to please you.
+ If deep down you don't really trust your partner, your subconscious brain probably won't allow you to feel completely comfortable during sex.
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