How to turn a friendship into a relationship this Valentine's Day

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If you've been lusting after a mate for months, now is the time to speak up and turn your friendship into a romantic relationship.

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Sarah Rozenthuler author of Life Changing Conversations: 7 Strategies to Help You Talk About What Matters Most is full of pearls of wisdom when it comes to turning your flirtatious friendship into something more.

How to turn a friendship into a relationship this Valentine's Day



Be honest about your sexual chemistry


Having a friendship is a great basis for a relationship, but check for the amount of sexual chemistry between you. Ask yourself: Do I find this person physically attractive? Is there a "spark" between us? Reflect on your answers and be honest with yourself.

Does your friend make you feel comfortable or vulnerable?


Tune into how comfortable you feel sharing more intimate things with this person. Are you willing to make yourself vulnerable with them? Do you feel safe to open up and talk about what really matters without fear of rejection or looking stupid? If you answer yes to all these questions, it's a good sign.

Discover what you really have in common


Discuss how you each like to spend your time. How compatible are you? If one of you likes lots of solitude and the other enjoys going to parties, talk though how this would work in your relationship. Opposites attract but then you need to find ways of managing your differences.

Have an open and honest conversation


Honesty is the best policy, so talk together about what kind of relationship you want. Do you want to be exclusive with each other sexually right from the start? It's better to enter a relationship with the boundaries clearly defined so that you don't end up in a mess.

Get to know him intimately


A relationship needs time at the start as you deepen your intimacy. Make sure that you're both willing to invest the time and energy this will take.

Be prepared for your friendship to be over


Be prepared for the possibility that your friendship might not work out once you've unveiled your feelings. He might not feel the same and won't want to 'lead you on' further by spending time with you. Take time to consider how much this will affect you, weighed up against how much not saying anything will affect you.

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