What's the secret of a happy, long lasting relationship?
I'm often asked this question. There are lots of pieces of golden advice from couples who have been happily married for a long time. My favourite is 'Never go to bed angry with each other. If you've argued, make up before you go to bed.'
If you're looking for other practical ways to keep a long term relationship happy, here are a few of my top suggestions...
Spring clean your relationship once a year:
Put aside a few hours where you and your partner get together without interruptions. Tell each other the things that are bugging you, discuss what you both want to change and have a fresh start.
Do a mini spring clean once every three month:
Don't do it more often than this as it may end up being disruptive to your relationship (no matter how good your intentions are). This ritual makes sure that resentments and misunderstanding don't build in the relationship because you clear the air regularly.
It also gives you the safety of knowing that you have time scheduled in where you can talk to each other so you're not nervously waiting for the right moment to get worries off your chest. We all know how difficult it is to find those 'right moments'. If they're scheduled in, you can relax and enjoy your relationship.
Don't be afraid to talk:
I hear a lot of people saying that they just don't feel like they can talk to their partner any more. This is a common experience in long term unhappy relationships - the couple feel unable to communicate. That happens because they haven't regularly scheduled the time to talk about serious issues. You need to feel safe to have a heart-to-heart conversation. Putting aside time to have that conversation gives both of you the emotional safety net you need.
For more tips and advice from passion coach Vena, find her on Twitter @VenaRamphal or visit her website, venaramphal.com.
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