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I have recently found out i'm pregannt, i am really excited but obviously scared aswell as it is my first baby. I can't wait to be a mum but i feel nervous about many things.
Most of these fears i feel i am able to discuss with my partner and friends and family, however some i feel like i'm being silly thinking and so worry. I also wonder if i'm being selfish and if other women have too felt like this when facing their first pregnancies?
I have a history of depression and went through a very low time during and in episodes since my teens. Being quite a geeky looking teenager i never felt very confident about the way i looked or how people thought of me as i often masked my insecurities by being quite loud. It is only when i started getting older that i bloomed as such and gained quite an attractive figure. I believe although i still have problems i have really learnt to embrace my body and focus on what i like in recent years. What is worrying me is how big an impact pregnancy will have on my self esteem. I know whatever happens it will be worth it to gain the beautiful baby i've always wanted but i am concerned that if my insecurities are heightened i could slip into a depression again. I feel terribly selfish for even thinking this which is why i have written it on this forum hoping that people won't judge me and could possibly offer me some advice

Sorry for rabbling on xxx

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Firstly (and most importantly) congratulations!!

I am sure that every woman has some serious worries when she first finds out she's pregnant! It's such a big and new thing that it'd be strange if there weren't concerns floating around.

Your family and especially partner should be there for you, so use them as much as possible to help address your fears - especially those women who've been there and done that, they're a wealth of knowledge!!

As for the depression part (and your concerns are not selfish at all by the way) it sounds like you've got quite a good attitude about your body, etc. now, so I would try not to worry too much too soon. However I would suggest maybe mentioning your concerns to your doctor (I assume they'd been involved during your initial depression) and just having a bit of a chat about it, it might help to put your mind at ease a bit more?

Most of all just try and relax and enjoy your pregnancy!!

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Thanks hun, my midwife does know about my depression and has told my family and partner to keep an eye on me, although i tend to know when i'm slumping into a really low patch.

It's nice to know you don't think i'm being selfish. I just know how hard depression can hit me and i want to be the best mum possible without my depression marring that.

You're right, i should try to chill out, going to do my best to enjoy my pregnancy and think positively towards the future

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Try not to think bad thoughts, what you think about you bring about so just think, this could be the making of you...sometimes pregnancy affects people the opposite way to their usual mood for example. My sister had a bad history of depression but had no postnatal depression after her last pregnancy. She had some mood swings during the pregnancy, I think she took extra iron and that helped. Personally I think depression is down to lack of certain minerals and nutrients and these can be depleted when you're pregnant especially. Magnesium citrate is really good but you probably cant take this while pregnant/breastfeeding I'm not sure. I'm coming from a different angle I know but have had lots of experience of depression in family so thought I'd pass on what I have learnt. Hope this might help

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Thanks, have been trying to look after myself and hoping that will help

Looking into antenatal exercise classes aswell to keep me active. However depression is not always as simple as a lack of nutrients, mine is something i have suffered with for over 10 years and is more deep rooted than that but i understnad every little helps and eing in good health is important.

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All your emotions are pretty normal and I think you are having such emotions is because you're pregnant! Pregnant ladies is very hormonal and it affects the mood swings.

Don't worry, and btw, I don't your selfish!

everything will be alright in the end.

Good luck with your pregnancy!

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