Not too down though, just needed to put some thoughts down. For once I feel really good about myself, I have a great family, friends and love my job and fit in really well with everyone at work, I know I'm being really silly but why is it everyone that fancies me and who want's to be with me I don't? I go out with friends and we play a bit of a childish game off you have to sleep with someone in the room or you will die, I scan the room and I don't see anyone I fancy. There are a few guys on-line which I quite like but I always find when I pluck up the courage to contact them they don't reply to me or their very courteous and so thanks but no thanks, I know this happens to everyone and Im not really to down on it just suppose I wanted a bit of a rant.
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Hi Dyno
It seems like you have everything but the relationship, thats a massive achievement in itself and i wish i had a job i like, a family i love and a loyal group of friends. I dont have any of those things and you do so
how long is it since you met someone you fancy? what is it thats missing in the men you meet? what are your expectations...do you have certain things you always find attractive, or is it about the individual and chemistry?
what famous men do you fancy (being nosey)
It seems like you have everything but the relationship, thats a massive achievement in itself and i wish i had a job i like, a family i love and a loyal group of friends. I dont have any of those things and you do so
how long is it since you met someone you fancy? what is it thats missing in the men you meet? what are your expectations...do you have certain things you always find attractive, or is it about the individual and chemistry?
what famous men do you fancy (being nosey)
<span style="font-size:10px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color:#000080;" class="Apple-style-span">"I'm not selling you my baby Nato."<
Oh Nato I know your having a tough time, but trust me things will get better god 2 years ago I was suicidal and you were one of the people that helped me most, it's taken me 5 years to get here and its true that time does heal all.
Anyway back to the famous men I fancy I think there's only one and that's Gerard Butler.
I don't really have a type of man I just take each one for who they are I think it's got to be over 2 years since I met someone that I really fancied since then Ive liked men that Ive been out with but Ive never had the wow factor.
Anyway back to the famous men I fancy I think there's only one and that's Gerard Butler.
I don't really have a type of man I just take each one for who they are I think it's got to be over 2 years since I met someone that I really fancied since then Ive liked men that Ive been out with but Ive never had the wow factor.
ahh thanks - ive been feeling pretty upbeat for a few days on the run now, so im hoping it was just a blip while i adjusted to the reality of what was happening.
sorry for digging here, but do you think there's anything with you thats holding you back?
2 years is a long time to not have a big old crush - are you just very selective, or do you think you are keeping yourself safe with defense mechanisms by not allowing yourself to fancy anyone for eg?
what were you like when you were younger? has it always been so few and far between? did you used to be more likely to meet someone when you were in your teens and twenties?
sorry for digging here, but do you think there's anything with you thats holding you back?
2 years is a long time to not have a big old crush - are you just very selective, or do you think you are keeping yourself safe with defense mechanisms by not allowing yourself to fancy anyone for eg?
what were you like when you were younger? has it always been so few and far between? did you used to be more likely to meet someone when you were in your teens and twenties?
<span style="font-size:10px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color:#000080;" class="Apple-style-span">"I'm not selling you my baby Nato."<
Its not that I haven't been out with men I suppose the last one I saw a couple of weeks ago is who I would go for just he went back to his girlfriend, I probably do still have barriers up I suppose its going to take someone special to take them down, although Im over what my ex did to me I do still worry that lightening will strike twice and I do know that Im being silly because I will be able to tell the signs straight away.
I suppose when I was younger I never really had trouble attracting men, or boys as they were then.
when men email me on dating sites most of them don't believe that Im single as they say someone who looks like me shouldn't be single, I don't see obviously what they see, I don't think Im ugly but not the stunner that some of them say I am.
I suppose when I was younger I never really had trouble attracting men, or boys as they were then.
when men email me on dating sites most of them don't believe that Im single as they say someone who looks like me shouldn't be single, I don't see obviously what they see, I don't think Im ugly but not the stunner that some of them say I am.
its no wonder you dont trust them - saying things like that does make them sound insincere, and a bit shallow too. i know its all based on looks cos you are advertising for a date - but it would be good if they approached with some attempt to have a spark of chemistry and tried to connect through personality. That might just be me though, i only ever used to respond to men whos profiles cracked me up, who were very silly and who didnt talk about looks or sex. Depends what you connect to i guess - and someone special for you would approach you the way you want to be approached - how would that be do you think? what would catch your eye?
sorry to hear about that last bad experience, that sounds horrible
I suppose when I was younger I never really had trouble attracting men, or boys as they were then.
thats a bit different - do you have trouble attracting men now? i thought that you werent attracted to them more now, is that right? Did you actually fancy more men when you were younger?
I do know that Im being silly because I will be able to tell the signs straight away.
well thats it isnt it, you have to trust yourself to make the right assessment, and if you dont and you mess up, that you will be ok and you will survive a break up
but what does special look like for you?
sorry to hear about that last bad experience, that sounds horrible
I suppose when I was younger I never really had trouble attracting men, or boys as they were then.
thats a bit different - do you have trouble attracting men now? i thought that you werent attracted to them more now, is that right? Did you actually fancy more men when you were younger?
I do know that Im being silly because I will be able to tell the signs straight away.
well thats it isnt it, you have to trust yourself to make the right assessment, and if you dont and you mess up, that you will be ok and you will survive a break up
but what does special look like for you?
<span style="font-size:10px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color:#000080;" class="Apple-style-span">"I'm not selling you my baby Nato."<
I have no idea whether I have trouble or not then again I suppose I do because no one ever comes across to talk to me when Im out. Anyway Ive deleted myself from the websites that Im on, going to give up looking for a while and go and concentrate on my horse's for the summer at least they dont treat me badly/
i know what you mean, i adore animals - and they are unconditional. Something thats sadly lacking in most human relationships.
why do you think no one comes over dyno? how are you when you go out? can you describe how someone might see you when they look at you having a night out with your friends? Do you give off any signals...do you dance? laugh? meet new people? or are you focussed on your friends and the conversation you have with them? or are you quiet and happy to watch everyone else - or are you withdrawn and shy do you think?
i think concentrating on you is always a good idea, if you are happy and doing things you enjoy, others can pick that up. The websites can be useful if you want to window shop for eg, and men clearly fancy you when they see your profile, but im not sure how good that is if its not really connecting with what you want
why do you think no one comes over dyno? how are you when you go out? can you describe how someone might see you when they look at you having a night out with your friends? Do you give off any signals...do you dance? laugh? meet new people? or are you focussed on your friends and the conversation you have with them? or are you quiet and happy to watch everyone else - or are you withdrawn and shy do you think?
i think concentrating on you is always a good idea, if you are happy and doing things you enjoy, others can pick that up. The websites can be useful if you want to window shop for eg, and men clearly fancy you when they see your profile, but im not sure how good that is if its not really connecting with what you want
<span style="font-size:10px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color:#000080;" class="Apple-style-span">"I'm not selling you my baby Nato."<
I do dance, I do laugh, I do like to people watch and I suppose I am shy in fact if men do approach where we are I have been knowen to disappear to the loo, but then again I always feel that there not coming to chat to me anyway. One of my friends who is single now always seems to be the one who get's chatted up, infact the last time we went out someone came over to her, sometimes I feel as though I might as well be invisible. I also have a couple of other friends who always seem to manage to pull when we are out not being horrible but neither of them are the best looking women, I remember one night a bloke that was with one of them whispered in my ear your a good looking woman but if looks could kill, so I suppose in a way Ive answered your question with I give off the wrong vibes.
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