younger man help please!

Hi There,

I am new here and I am 26 and someone I am interested in is 21 and he is also kind of my boss (long story)...I think he is interested in me but I am awful at reading people, if I explained somethings do you think you could tell me if I am wasting my time?

We started working together about 8 months ago and thats when I fell for him, we chat about everything, anything I mention I like he makes sure he remembers, he remembers everything small thing about me, we spend all our time together, even when his mates come around he prefers to spend all his time with me. I told him how I felt about four months ago I thought it's now or never, but I didn't help my cause because three days later I got really drunk and then everything came pouring out and I think I scared him!..he said he likes me but not in that way, then he kissed me on the way home and held my hand.

If were in a social situation he is there by my side everytime, he's engaged in what I say, he hates it if I don't include him in things, I told him I like a man with stubble, he hasn't shaved for a few days!!..he went away for a few days last week and I made sure I was there on his return..when he saw me he was delighted to see me (we were at work still),we then spent almost the whole weekend together at work....All day Saturday we were together and Sunday...even someone I don't know mentioned to my friend "well they fancy each other"...We got on really well that night (we were having drinks playing truth or dare)...but since then I have sort of given him the cold shoulder just to see if I get a reaction and I am..I think..he tries his hardest to talk to me.

I am really confused because he said he isn't interested but his whole body and the way he is with me says other things..should I hold out incase or just move on?

Thanks, Lizalix

Well you have laid it all out on a plate for him, in a roundabout sort of way. Age is not an issue, but he is your boss, and that is awkward, always will be. Lets say you did get together, if you did spilt, I promise you one of you will be looking for a new job.
Difficult to say if he is interested, but in his position, if I was interested, I would be holding myself back, because I was your boss. As for remembering every small thing, don't read too much into it. I remember in my early 20's, my mates and I would make a rule of remembering everything about a girl AND her friends. It looks good, plus, remember if the girl's friends don't like you, your finished. Anyway he might just have a good memory. Plus when your involved, you tend to look a situation through tinted windows.
Sounds after an embarrassing start aka telling him how you feel, you have played it perfectly and stepped back. Just wait and see, any guy that likes a man, will come running back. Only problem is that he is still your boss, could end in tears for one or both of you
good Luck

It's a tough one! Obviously he's told you how he feels but he appears to be really close to you. He's not gay is he? No offence meant at all, it just sounds like a very close friendship, but as you're female and he's male the boundaries are more blurred.

I think regardless of how you feel, you need to accept at the moment he's not willing/able to be in that kind of a relationship with you.

Maybe you need to spend time apart from him, go out with some female friends and flirt with available men.

Good luck.

Thank you for your help, I agree we should spend time apart...just very difficult when they live here like I said it's a tricky one, he isn't just my boss, he owns the place with his dad and I share a office with him.

I am just letting him get on with it for now, if he chooses to tell me how he feels thats fine if not I've not lost anything and if we were to get together I would probably lose a very good friend if it/when it went all wrong.

I did wonder if he maybe gay..I know he hasn't had many (if any, he says he has, although I don't believe him) girlfriends/sexual partners

Thanks Againx