Am I misssing something, am I meant to email them back/wink back to let them know I'm interested?!?! Is there some kind of 'unwritten rule' or internet dating etiquette going on here? Any help would be appreciated! xx
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Hello everyone, thought I would ask a quick question to all you experienced women of the world (!) In an attempt to get over someone I was totally in love with and who messed me around no end I've decided to have a bit of fun and do a bit of internet dating, go on a few dates etc. etc. I signed up to Datingdirect but what is it with these winks!! Nothing seems to be happening! I get loads of winks, but in my opinion what's the point?!? For God's sake, message me and show a bit of actual interest! I don't get emails!! Am I misssing something, am I meant to email them back/wink back to let them know I'm interested?!?! Is there some kind of 'unwritten rule' or internet dating etiquette going on here? Any help would be appreciated! xx
Am I misssing something, am I meant to email them back/wink back to let them know I'm interested?!?! Is there some kind of 'unwritten rule' or internet dating etiquette going on here? Any help would be appreciated! xx
Is it free to send a wink but you have to pay to be a full member before you can send messages? I dunno if that's for definite, it's just a guess.
Hi! Have tried DirectDating, winks are free but you pay to receive messages. www.freedating.co.uk http://www.freedating.co.uk is a free site, could start off there www.plentyoffish.com http://www.plentyoffish.com is also free but seems to attract more weirdos for some reason www.friendsreuniteddating.co.uk http://www.friendsreuniteddating.co.uk another subscribed site www.match.com http://www.match.com subscribed www.mybestfriend.co.uk http://www.mybestfriend.co.uk subscribed where recommended friends back up single mates with a few kindly words.... Havent tried any of the others. Grow a thick skin, be prepared to sift through loads of lies and idiots but when you get a date with a half decent guy be prepared, he is probably dating loads of women or is married but as with anything there is good and bad. My sis and friend both met OH on sites and are very happy. Have fun.....
I find a wink back helps! If they are a bit nervous about saying hi, like I am, a wink, hopefully, starts the ball rolling to a message. If no message arrives you haven't lost a thing from winking! Go and do some winking too! 
They are time wasters who are too cheap to sign up for a full membership. See it as a good way to weed out some of the losers. A man who is serious about looking for a relationship will 1- pay for the membership 2- write an email. A proper one that refers to things you said in your profile not just a generic "Hi, love your profile, I think we are compatible, please write back" that he sends to everyone.
Try girlsdateforfree....
Yeah, I have to say I haven't even seen one guy who looks remotely nice! Will be trying it for a month and then probably giving up! (Positive thinking eh?!?!)
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Yeah, I have to say I haven't even seen one guy who looks remotely nice! Will be trying it for a month and then probably giving up! (Positive thinking eh?!?!)
I am in agreement on this! I am about to end my first month`s subscription and a friend is in the same boat - lots of odd men with stalker like messages or who have not read what you have to say. I have, however, met two nice guys on it (but not in person yet so time will tell) so there is some hope! That said, two of my friends met their blokes online and one is getting married very soon and the other is buying a house with her bloke. Suppose it just depends!
I would give it a couple of months if I were you. My friend tried it for about 3 months on one of the free sites and met quite a few really nice men. She chatted to lots of people and met up with a few. Then last December she started seeing someone and they are still together and are hoping to live together in the New Year. I have just split from my boyfriend and when I've given myself a bit of "me" time and feel ready, I am going to give it a try just for a bit of fun. You never know I might meet my next partner. Who knows?
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They are time wasters who are too cheap to sign up for a full membership. See it as a good way to weed out some of the losers. A man who is serious about looking for a relationship will 1- pay for the membership 2- write an email. A proper one that refers to things you said in your profile not just a generic "Hi, love your profile, I think we are compatible, please write back" that he sends to everyone.
Posted by LoonyPumpkin
Posted by LoonyPumpkin
Sorry, but this is a load of bk! It's not only men that mess ppl around on these sites!
I've been a member of various paid sites, and I've 'met' plenty of timewasters on all of them.
The only I'm currently with is Plenty of Fish, because it's 100% free. This site organises monthly meet & greets in my area, and I've attended every one since July. I go with a couple of friends, and we've made some good male acquaintances. Even though we haven't met anyone special, these singles nights are good laugh, and are very well-attended.
It isn't true that if you pay a monthly subscription, you get a better quality of person. IMO, I think you're MORE likely to meet players on paid sites. After all, a fee of say �15 a month gives you access to 100's of vulnerable ppl is a small price to pay, especially if most of these ppl are also of the opinion that you're more likely to be 'genuine' as you've paid a fee.
Hope this makes sense.
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Savvy
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The only I'm currently with is Plenty of Fish, because it's 100% free. This site organises monthly meet & greets in my area, and I've attended every one since July. I go with a couple of friends, and we've made some good male acquaintances. Even though we haven't met anyone special, these singles nights are good laugh, and are very well-attended.
Posted by Savvy_1
Posted by Savvy_1
Here Here .. I'm another one who rates Plenty of Fish .... yes you do meet some nutters (as I have in other sites too), but I've also met some nice guys and the Meets are a BONUS ... it was through one of the Meets that I met The Landlord, whose pub it was being held in (although not technically from site but our paths wouldn't have crossed any other way) and 4 months later, things are going great guns
I actually know a few people who have met their OH through the site. So don't rule out the Free Sites just yet ... you can have much fun for no outlay
Jx
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I think it depends on your luck... best is to try out a month or so if nothing happen then you can cancel it. Like many have said, you meet a lot of players in dating site and I have a few friends including myself went there for a couple of months before but nothing really happen... usually just met up some guys looking for sex if you are not they move on kind of guys.
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Hello everyone, thought I would ask a quick question to all you experienced women of the world (!) In an attempt to get over someone I was totally in love with and who messed me around no end I've decided to have a bit of fun and do a bit of internet dating, go on a few dates etc. etc. I signed up to Datingdirect but what is it with these winks!! Nothing seems to be happening! I get loads of winks, but in my opinion what's the point?!? For God's sake, message me and show a bit of actual interest! I don't get emails!! Am I misssing something, am I meant to email them back/wink back to let them know I'm interested?!?! Is there some kind of 'unwritten rule' or internet dating etiquette going on here? Any help would be appreciated! xx
Posted by MissLizzie
Am I misssing something, am I meant to email them back/wink back to let them know I'm interested?!?! Is there some kind of 'unwritten rule' or internet dating etiquette going on here? Any help would be appreciated! xxPosted by MissLizzie
Hi Lizzie,
I know what you mean, i have been on a few dating sites and i find it really annoying when you just get a wink or a quickflirt. I recently joined http://www.smooch.com/ and before i even finished filling out my profile i had loads of messages. Might be worth trying there if you haven't already
<a href="http://www.smooch.com/">http://www.smooch.com</a>
I think that if someone is paying for a dating service then at least you know they are more likely to be serious about dating and finding a relationship. I've recently joined a London dating site called Lovestruck.com and have a better experience here. I did join other free ones like POF.com but in all honesty there seems to be less genuine people there and singles interested in dating and relationships. I think my best advice would be to sign up and around a few and see which one best suits you. I'm sure some of them may vary on location too!
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