Those of you familiar with my situation will probably roll your eyes and say "not again" because I know that's exactly what I did . . .
After no contact for almost 3 weeks why oh why did my ex have to email me at 4.30am Sat night !!!! I've got a blackberry so emails come straight through. I ignored it at the time but then in the morning replied saying "Guessing this was alcohol talking" and he replied saying "Sorry, yes alcohol was involved. Sorry about that. How are you?"
I deleted without replying but then spent the whole bl**dy day thinking . . . why did he do that?, why was he thinking about me?, what was he hoping would happen? . . .
I know I need to ignore this and just put it out of my mind but I also can't help thinking that he knew to email me not call as he thinks his number is blocked on my phone (it isn't but I told him it is) so he can't have been that drunk not to have been able to process this thinking . . . oh i feel sick all over again !!!!!!
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happens to the best of us worky.
Id suggest that you do block his number and email address, remove temptation to contact him, and remove confusion when he contacts you - what do you think?
Id suggest that you do block his number and email address, remove temptation to contact him, and remove confusion when he contacts you - what do you think?
<span style="font-size:10px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color:#000080;" class="Apple-style-span">"I'm not selling you my baby Nato."<
why oh why did my ex have to email me at 4.30am Sat night !
You know the answer to this MAW - cos he was drunk and it was late.
try your hardest not to over analyse and just put it down to the booze. Yes, he was thinking abut you in order to get in otuch but it doesn't mean anything. Sorry.
Have you ever drunk dialled or sent drunk texts? I have, and I know that it didn't mean anythng apart from seeming like a good idea at the time.
Stay strong, don't let this derail you - you're doing great
You know the answer to this MAW - cos he was drunk and it was late.
try your hardest not to over analyse and just put it down to the booze. Yes, he was thinking abut you in order to get in otuch but it doesn't mean anything. Sorry.
Have you ever drunk dialled or sent drunk texts? I have, and I know that it didn't mean anythng apart from seeming like a good idea at the time.
Stay strong, don't let this derail you - you're doing great
Thanks ladies, exactly what I needed to hear.
I can't block his number - I downloaded a trial app which blocked it for a month and I know that he tried to call me in that time so thats why he thinks its still blocked but trial has run out. My email address is through a friend's domain (too tech for me!) and he's going to let me know if he can block his email address, its not as easy as blocking a hotmail address apparently.
I'd love to be able to set up autoreply to his email address saying "b*gger off" that would make my day !!!! ha ha ha
I can't block his number - I downloaded a trial app which blocked it for a month and I know that he tried to call me in that time so thats why he thinks its still blocked but trial has run out. My email address is through a friend's domain (too tech for me!) and he's going to let me know if he can block his email address, its not as easy as blocking a hotmail address apparently.
I'd love to be able to set up autoreply to his email address saying "b*gger off" that would make my day !!!! ha ha ha
ha haaaa.... "naff off you twunt". Perfect!
You should be able to press abutton and have his emails go straight to your trash folder though. That's fairly simples.
You should be able to press abutton and have his emails go straight to your trash folder though. That's fairly simples.
The problem I have is this little % of me still misses him and wonders if he'll change his mind.
Now I'm well aware that this is an irrational % and actually the other % of me is laughing at this little % and telling it how stupid it is but this little % is the bit with the IT skills and refuses to apply any sort of trash folder instruction to his emails so for the time being I'm stuck receiving them.
Its like picking a scab - you know you'll regret it and it'll only make the healing longer but you just can't help yourself !!!!
Damn him !!!!!!
Now I'm well aware that this is an irrational % and actually the other % of me is laughing at this little % and telling it how stupid it is but this little % is the bit with the IT skills and refuses to apply any sort of trash folder instruction to his emails so for the time being I'm stuck receiving them.
Its like picking a scab - you know you'll regret it and it'll only make the healing longer but you just can't help yourself !!!!
Damn him !!!!!!
Try and distract yourself or promise yourself a treat if you don't contact him for x amount of time. Think of it like giving up smoking!!
Good Luck cos I know how hard it is.
GG
i think in some ways, its good that its not easy to block him, cos this way you HAVE to do the blocking work yourself. And when that happens, it gives you a sense of control over your life that a break up by its nature removes.
Its like picking a scab - you know you'll regret it and it'll only make the healing longer but you just can't help yourself !!!!
i dunno, sometimes the getting over him process is just that, a process. the healthy, sensible thing to do is to never reply, but who is ever that strong 100% of the time? not me, thats for sure, and i have always gotten there eventually, so dont be too annoyed at yaself.
its all very well having the conviction to say today, no, no more, but your feelings are still there and thats a sure fire way to have a wobble when the email comes in. Which means you need a strategy to deal with it. So what could your strategy be? I would say that phone a designated friend or post here, before you ever, ever respond, put a buffer between you and the reply.
sorry its still hurting, when you do get there, thats a real achievement x
Its like picking a scab - you know you'll regret it and it'll only make the healing longer but you just can't help yourself !!!!
i dunno, sometimes the getting over him process is just that, a process. the healthy, sensible thing to do is to never reply, but who is ever that strong 100% of the time? not me, thats for sure, and i have always gotten there eventually, so dont be too annoyed at yaself.
its all very well having the conviction to say today, no, no more, but your feelings are still there and thats a sure fire way to have a wobble when the email comes in. Which means you need a strategy to deal with it. So what could your strategy be? I would say that phone a designated friend or post here, before you ever, ever respond, put a buffer between you and the reply.
sorry its still hurting, when you do get there, thats a real achievement x
<span style="font-size:10px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="font-size:14px;" class="Apple-style-span"><span style="color:#000080;" class="Apple-style-span">"I'm not selling you my baby Nato."<
Nato - that's a great idea to have a strategy and posting on here is a good one because its a thought process so that's my new strategy:
read message, delete it and post on here immediately
thats my promise to myself.
GG - I don't contact him and told him when I finished things that there would be no contact but he keeps finding reasons to contact me (albeit the reason is because he's drunk!) but everytime he contacts me I fall back a step or two but that said they are becoming smaller and smaller setbacks so hopefully the next time won't even make me wobble !!
Thanks ladies, appreciate it xx
read message, delete it and post on here immediately
thats my promise to myself.
GG - I don't contact him and told him when I finished things that there would be no contact but he keeps finding reasons to contact me (albeit the reason is because he's drunk!) but everytime he contacts me I fall back a step or two but that said they are becoming smaller and smaller setbacks so hopefully the next time won't even make me wobble !!
Thanks ladies, appreciate it xx
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Oh God, this guy is a pest isn't he? and you
Honeychile
You're not the first person to impart that wisdom and when I was younger thats exactly what I'd have done but my options aren't as open these days . . . .ha ha ha . . . .it made me smile though.
Arrrgghhhh - He's just made some comments on our mutual friend's facebook status. Have known him for over a year and never known him to comment on her status but all of a sudden he's making inane comments which aren't really anything to do with her status but the only other person who commented on her status was me !!!!!!
You're not the first person to impart that wisdom and when I was younger thats exactly what I'd have done but my options aren't as open these days . . . .ha ha ha . . . .it made me smile though.
Arrrgghhhh - He's just made some comments on our mutual friend's facebook status. Have known him for over a year and never known him to comment on her status but all of a sudden he's making inane comments which aren't really anything to do with her status but the only other person who commented on her status was me !!!!!!
AAARRRRGGGGHHHHHHH . . . . . And he contacts me again - the reason for this email was "did I leave my coat at yours. I need my passport and I think I left it in my coat pocket".
Obviously if he had left his coat at my house wouldn't I have told him just after we'd split (3 months ago) especially if his passport was in the pocket !!!!!!
Deep breathe and put to the back of my mind but so frustrating that he can stil have this effect on me.
Obviously if he had left his coat at my house wouldn't I have told him just after we'd split (3 months ago) especially if his passport was in the pocket !!!!!!
Deep breathe and put to the back of my mind but so frustrating that he can stil have this effect on me.
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