Hi,
Hope you have soem advice for me...I'm going a bit crazy with this one!
I have met a guy I really like, he is tall, handsome, mature and a really good laugh.
We met about 3 weeks ago. At first there was lots of texting which I really liked and he always wrote really long texts about what he was up to. We went on our second date and I stayed the night at his which was great. He told me he had 2 kids who live with his ex in Manchester and was going through a messy divorce which was nearly finalised. He also works really hard, at the same company as my brother. So, every thursday he drives up to Manchester and spends the weekend with his kids. He comes back down South, where I live and he works, on Mondays. As soon as Monday comes around all the texting starts up again and I get really happy at the idea of seeing him.
My problem is that I only ever see him on a Monday. I know, it's early days but when you first start to see someone I really like to see them more often. I seem to come pretty low on his list of priorities.
I guess my question is, knowing his situation, should I continue to see him if it's only ever going to be once a week due to his other committments...
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I have to ask this question, are you sure he is single?
I am as sure as I can be. He works closely with with obe of my ex colleagues and with my brother. But yes it is a very valid question and has crossed my mind a good few times. There is no way I can really find out except for following him up to Manchester!!
I am going out on a night out with said ex-colleague and am very tempted to do some investigation as he is his manager after all.
I am going out on a night out with said ex-colleague and am very tempted to do some investigation as he is his manager after all.
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I have to ask this question, are you sure he is single?
Posted by dynomite
Posted by dynomite
Im sorry I had to ask, is there no communication with him whilst he is in Manchester?
There wasn't any last weekend but before that there was, loads.
He has mentionned his problems with her because I commented on the fact that he was lucky to have access to the kids for the whole weekend. He said it wasn't always like that but it's a better now. When I asked how close he was to getting divorced, he said it just needed the 'official stamp' for it to be finalised. He also talked about how he was really glad his contract was getting renewed.
This was all a conversation had face to face so although he may have been lying I was able to see his facial expressions...
I hate being so suspicious and my instinct is that it's ok. For now...
He has mentionned his problems with her because I commented on the fact that he was lucky to have access to the kids for the whole weekend. He said it wasn't always like that but it's a better now. When I asked how close he was to getting divorced, he said it just needed the 'official stamp' for it to be finalised. He also talked about how he was really glad his contract was getting renewed.
This was all a conversation had face to face so although he may have been lying I was able to see his facial expressions...
I hate being so suspicious and my instinct is that it's ok. For now...
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Im sorry I had to ask, is there no communication with him whilst he is in Manchester?
Posted by dynomite
Posted by dynomite
Do you feel as though it's going to go somewhere
No to be honest it seems to me if the contact is dying down now then there is not much hope.
When it's comes round to Mondays, he's sooo keen but then it all tails off..
Great sex and nice to have someone but it's making me unhappy for 6 days out of 7 so maybe a lost cause!
Thanks for your questions, helps me to think more clearly..
When it's comes round to Mondays, he's sooo keen but then it all tails off..
Great sex and nice to have someone but it's making me unhappy for 6 days out of 7 so maybe a lost cause!
Thanks for your questions, helps me to think more clearly..
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Do you feel as though it's going to go somewhere
Posted by dynomite
Posted by dynomite
I think really you've answered your own questions. It could be that he's only really after one thing, what do you do when you see him on a Monday, sorry for prying!!!
The first few dates he took me out and treated me...last Monday however he was late and then we just had a bottle of wine and had sex. It was good but I felt pretty empty afterwards to be honest.
I have just texted him now anyway, this situation has been driving me crazy, been single for a while and only seem to meet wrong 'uns! I said I didn't feel comfortable with this hot/cold relationship and that I had my suspicions about him being married etc.
I feel good for doing it, not by text but then I doubt he would have answered the phone to me cos he's really busy at work.
Another one down the pan...
I have just texted him now anyway, this situation has been driving me crazy, been single for a while and only seem to meet wrong 'uns! I said I didn't feel comfortable with this hot/cold relationship and that I had my suspicions about him being married etc.
I feel good for doing it, not by text but then I doubt he would have answered the phone to me cos he's really busy at work.
Another one down the pan...
I think you've already decided that it's going nowhere, who want's someone who blows's hot and cold, eventually and given time you will meet the right one, just try and have fun along the way.
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