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jamfunky
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Hi there
I have a big crush on my next door neighbour. He lives on his own too. When I moved in, I think he was single, BUT over the last few months a girl's been coming to stay every 3 or 4 weeks, for the weekend. I don't know who she is, at first assumed she was a friend, but now thinking it's a long distance relationship maybe? Dunno. During the time inbetween he's on his own in the flat.

When I bump into him (not as often as I'd like!) we chat for ages... I feel chemistry between us, and I think about him ALOT! We've never had a coffee together, so that I can ask him whether he's single.
I really like him.... feel confused - does he fancy me? I want him to ask me out for a drink! We've texted eachother briefly for a while trying to arrange a neighbourly drink, but cos we were both hectic busy it never came to anything. I don't feel like can make any kind of move because of this flipping girl who mysteriously comes over once every 3 or 4 weeks. She's here this weekend booooooo
I feel like he's been flirting back, but do you think hemay be seeing this girl and therefore keeping his distance? Shall I just forget it, even though I really feel chemisty and can't stop thinking about him?!
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Evana1
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It's been months. If he wanted to go for a drink with you he'd have found the time. He's friendly and possibly enjoys the banter you have but he hasn't taken it further and from what you've said, this 'flipping girl' is probably his girlfriend.

I think you need to step back and take an honest look at the situation. You're describing the activity of a woman you don't know as mysterious when to me it sounds like a fairly straightforward routine they have going. Save your efforts for a man that likes you enough to ask you out.
jamfunky
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Yeah I think she may well be, I am GUTTED!!
Prob because during the week, he's on his own - just like me and so I thought he must be single.. but by the look of it it must be a long distance relationship. Luckiily, I've not really flirted that much wit him, because I wasn't sure if he was avail or not, so at least I've not embarrassed myself! Doesn't help the way I feel though..... I really think I may have fallen for this guy! arrrggh
jamfunky
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Problem is, I just get this 'feeling' that he may be interested too, and I think it's made my crush even worse! Can't stop thinking about him. eek. There was a time he knocked on my door to say hi a couple of months ago and I could tell he wanted to come in, but my flat was a tip (!) so I made an excuse.
I am a bit shy with coming forward and flirting with blokes - so am thinking maybe he thought I wasn't interested anyway?? Whereas I totally am interested in him, but thought -
...he's gorgeous, so is prob just a 2-timing badboy!
...and if we did ever get together, woudl be a nightmare if it didn't work out because we live next door!

maybe I was giving off 'not interested' signals and now it's too late Pah!
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Yeah I think she may well be, I am GUTTED!! Prob because during the week, he's on his own - just like me and so I thought he must be single.. but by the look of it it must be a long distance relationship. Luckiily, I've not really flirted that much wit him, because I wasn't sure if he was avail or not, so at least I've not embarrassed myself! Doesn't help the way I feel though..... I really think I may have fallen for this guy! arrrggh
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Hi Hun

Think you need to step back a bit after reading this!! You dont even know him how can you have fallen for him??????? Sounds very OTT.

Try not to dwell on the what if's, if he was single and he fancied you and wanted to get to know you he would have done something about it.

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You say he's on his own during the week, but that doesn't mean he isn't instant messaging/emailing/texting or talking to this woman.
He had plenty of opportunity to ask you for date before this mystery woman turned up, and he didn't. If you think this woman is his g/f, I think you should leave him to it. You haven't fallen for him. You've built up a picture of him in your mind, which doesn't match the reality imo.
How can you 'fall' for someone you don't know?
Savvy
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