Ok so i have been with bf (recently fiance) now 2 and half years. After my ex cheating on me (alot) i didnt ever think i would find someone i could really trust again.. but i did. I do trust him and although there has been times where i have doubted things,.... its mostly because i have been cheated on in the past and have been left quite insecure.
So he has been working hard over the last few months and we dont have as much sex as i would like. He does turn it down sometimes as he is too tired..
I made him sexy videos of myself stripping (something i have never done) and i took some dirty pictures for me to keep him entertained when he is feeling sexy. The videos.. he looked at once! and thats it and the pictures he keeps in a file hidden away somewhere on his laptop.. (not the desired reaction i wanted.
I try everything to make him fullfilled.... Dress up, be inventive, be dirty... its important to me to keep my man happy.
This morning i wanted some sex, and he just got up to go and sit on his laptop.. so i go out to meet a friend but come home unexpected and catch him %&*$# off to some whore stripping online.
I went mad,,, Now im not silly i know men do this. My problem is why would he prefer that to me? Why turn me down to do that? Im attractive, i try whatever he wants and he wont even get naked in front of me because he has put on weight and yet the minute i leave the flat he does this?
I ask him what he is watching because i would love to know whats better than having sex with me and he hides it and deletes the history.. shady!!!
I ask him why he felt the need to do that and he flips at me! tells me i am the problem and wont even talk to me about it just goes mad. So i tell him to go.
and he starts packing his bags.... i say this is a fight not a break up and he say no if i go im leaving for good.
How does he get to be mad at me ? ppl always tell me i can do better than him, that they dont see why im with him because im out of his league. But i dont see that, i love him and am crazy about him and try so hard to please him in everyway. but yet he ignores all my sexy videos/ pics to look at some whore
So he has left, im mad and feel angry and not enough for him...
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<font color="#ff0000"><em>S1984 x<br /></em></font>
It could be low self esteem. He has gained weight and doesn't feel attractive or good enough. If a woman gains weight she may go off sex for a bit....can happen to men as well.
As with the %&*$#.....I guess everyone likes difference and variety, we wouldn't want caviar every day.
Have you asked him about it? Have you talked about it?
As with the %&*$#.....I guess everyone likes difference and variety, we wouldn't want caviar every day.
Have you asked him about it? Have you talked about it?
He wont talk about. He got really angry at me and left.
No he put on weight over a year and a half ago. He made me feel cheap for the pics and videos i made for him but he is happy to watch other random girls.
I have to disagree with ur comment "who would want cavier everyday"?
I have been with him the same length of time, I only want and need him to satisfy me. If he isnt happy with me he should go be single and then he can have all the variety he needs.
I may sound unreasonable, but if he had spoken to me, showed me what it was so i could understand it more things may be different. But turning on me and making me feel bad isnt on.
He left, took his work clothes with him for 2moro and thats it.
Im so mad at him, at men in general. It always seems whatever we do, there always want more and we always get hurt
No he put on weight over a year and a half ago. He made me feel cheap for the pics and videos i made for him but he is happy to watch other random girls.
I have to disagree with ur comment "who would want cavier everyday"?
I have been with him the same length of time, I only want and need him to satisfy me. If he isnt happy with me he should go be single and then he can have all the variety he needs.
I may sound unreasonable, but if he had spoken to me, showed me what it was so i could understand it more things may be different. But turning on me and making me feel bad isnt on.
He left, took his work clothes with him for 2moro and thats it.
Im so mad at him, at men in general. It always seems whatever we do, there always want more and we always get hurt
<font color="#ff0000"><em>S1984 x<br /></em></font>
Well a partner is supposed to make you feel wonderful most of the time. If he doesnt perhaps you need to take control and decide for yourself what life you want to lead.
he does pay me compliments and does make me feel good. But when i made him the pics and videos i thought he would be grateful, not just look at them once and out them away. Isnt it what men want? a nice loving gf who will try anything sexually to please them?..
Im so confused.
Why did he walk out and get angry at me? what did i do?
Im so confused.
Why did he walk out and get angry at me? what did i do?
<font color="#ff0000"><em>S1984 x<br /></em></font>
If your partner dressed up in a gimp costume and it didn't turn you on, could he be cross with you? Perhaps he doesn't want you to make pics and videos of yourself? Maybe it just doesnt float his boat? Not all men want their women to be a ceratin way sexually.
We all get angry at times, and if this is a one off for him, perhaps just a bit of time to cool down will allow him to come and talk about it.
Maybe he feels like a failure? Like you're offering yourself on a plate and he can't get an erection? He may be embarrassed or frustrated and this has come out of anger?
Perhaps the stress at work is affecting his ability to perform.
Who knows????? You'll only know when you get a chance to talk to him.
We all get angry at times, and if this is a one off for him, perhaps just a bit of time to cool down will allow him to come and talk about it.
Maybe he feels like a failure? Like you're offering yourself on a plate and he can't get an erection? He may be embarrassed or frustrated and this has come out of anger?
Perhaps the stress at work is affecting his ability to perform.
Who knows????? You'll only know when you get a chance to talk to him.
No, our sex life is greta when it happens. He never fails to get an erection.
Who wouldnt want their gf to do that stuff for them? We do freaky stuff in bed all the time he isnt one of those men that like there gfs to act ladylike and secretly loves whores lol
I wish i could find out, but he has gone. i wont call him, why should i? im still angry he has made me feel pathetic and not attractive at all. if he loved me he would talk to me about it.. but he has gone so thats tells me he doesnt care..
Who wouldnt want their gf to do that stuff for them? We do freaky stuff in bed all the time he isnt one of those men that like there gfs to act ladylike and secretly loves whores lol
I wish i could find out, but he has gone. i wont call him, why should i? im still angry he has made me feel pathetic and not attractive at all. if he loved me he would talk to me about it.. but he has gone so thats tells me he doesnt care..
<font color="#ff0000"><em>S1984 x<br /></em></font>
Why do you have such a hard time in believing that he doesn't want to look at vids of you stripping when he wants to rub one out?
You need to sit him down and have a conversation... really listen to what he says to you and not dismiss it as you have at the suggestions in this thread. Obviously there's something going on with your man and it may not have anything to do with you at all.. he may be hurting in some way and not feel able to talk to you about it for whatever reason.. try and put your own feelings to one side for the minute and try and find out what's up with him.
You need to sit him down and have a conversation... really listen to what he says to you and not dismiss it as you have at the suggestions in this thread. Obviously there's something going on with your man and it may not have anything to do with you at all.. he may be hurting in some way and not feel able to talk to you about it for whatever reason.. try and put your own feelings to one side for the minute and try and find out what's up with him.
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im not dismissing things. I would have talked and listend to him if he has had the guts to stay and talk to me. He wont talk about it, as far as he see's it its his choice what he does. He always walks away from things.
And i have a problem accepting he wouldnt want to look at me in videos because im a confident women, i gave him exactly what he wanted and if he would still rather be looking at randoms i think he should get lost and be with all the girls he wants.
Im a single mum, im not here to play games. I thought i was enough for him. I dont know if ur male or female. but from a girl who has always been cheated on by men, i have a real problem with this kinda stuff. im not trying to be unreasonable or think im better than everyone else at all, i just want my man to myself.. is that too much to ask?
And i have a problem accepting he wouldnt want to look at me in videos because im a confident women, i gave him exactly what he wanted and if he would still rather be looking at randoms i think he should get lost and be with all the girls he wants.
Im a single mum, im not here to play games. I thought i was enough for him. I dont know if ur male or female. but from a girl who has always been cheated on by men, i have a real problem with this kinda stuff. im not trying to be unreasonable or think im better than everyone else at all, i just want my man to myself.. is that too much to ask?
<font color="#ff0000"><em>S1984 x<br /></em></font>
then maybe he isn't the man for you. he can't *make* you feel unwanted or not good enough. it's your reaction to his actions that makes you feel that way. perhaps you are projecting your issues from past relationships onto this one?
remember as well, watching %&*$# and masturbating isn't the same as sex. masturbating is a selfish act where you only have to focus on your own pleasure and attaining it as quickly as possible. you can't compare his %&*$# sessions with your sex with him. it's so much easier and quicker for him, and there's no need to think about pleasuring you. sounds like he's being a bit lazy really.
remember as well, watching %&*$# and masturbating isn't the same as sex. masturbating is a selfish act where you only have to focus on your own pleasure and attaining it as quickly as possible. you can't compare his %&*$# sessions with your sex with him. it's so much easier and quicker for him, and there's no need to think about pleasuring you. sounds like he's being a bit lazy really.
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