Serious issue - What do i do?

Am looking for real honest answers here.

My GF is as fantastic in everyway, great to look at, to kiss, touch, lick, you get the picture!. The only bit lacking if the icing on the cake, actual sexual penetration. Now I am not big, my penis only measuring 5inches 8cm fully erect and girth about average also so I may be the problem also.

From past experience, my GF is the loosest (sorry to put it so bluntly) woman I have ever been with, I was with someone else for 7 years before and my God was she tight, so much so that after I have cum inside her, I actually don’t like to withdraw because my penis head is so sensitive that it hurts to take it out.

But I did love the tight feeling during sex, the pleasure I now know was un-measureable compared to now, and sometime wish I could just have one night of the same feeling with my ex, which I feel guilty about. With my current, its the direct opposite, I last a lot longer in bed because I don’t actually feel much and we don’t use a condom, but most of all, it does not feel great, sometimes I would rather %&*$#.

I have only been with 9 or so women but none of them as far as I can recall have been this loose. I have actually bit the bullet and spoke about it and naturally am worrying if I did the right thing, she says my size isn’t the problem but I am one of the smallest she has been with, which I have accepted being someone that see a lot of dick through watching a lot of %&*$# and other men in gym showers, my size isn’t a big deal for me, not much I can do about it or is there?.

We both accepted that we have been with different sizes (bigger dicks in her case, and smaller vagina in my case). She says sex is great for her but obviously has great concerns as its not the case for me. Now she makes remarks about herself having a loose fanny and we constantly argue, she is always asking how it feels for me while we are having sex like she expects me to say something different.

What are our options apart from breaking up? Would any of you ladies have appreciated my honesty? Would the pelvic muscle thing work for her? Any options in terms of getting more girth for me as I think that would fill her more?

Perhaps "loose" isn't the best word in the world to have used. But I'm sure you've become very aware of that!


I'm an appreciator of honesty when it isn't cruel or critical (which I feel you were) and in your girlfriend's shoes would probably have had my confidence damaged.


Firstly, exercising her pelvic floor would probably be well worth a try. I'm not sure whether it can make a difference to general tightness if one is... hmm, there aren't too many nice words for loose are there? But, the ability to grip can be very nice so I'm told. Though if you raise this, please sell it to her, ie. it could increase her orgasm, rather than make a request or demand of her.

Secondly, if she crosses her ankles when you're inside her then everything will feel tighter. It's easiest if she lies face down with you on top.

But I think you need to eat some humble pie, apologise for the way you broached things, remind her how attractive you think she is and get down to the basics of some decent seduction and pampering. Make an effort to point out the special and sexy features she has. And remind yourself that sex is about far more than the sensation on one small part of your anatomy!

Evana says things far more nicely that I could have.

Pelvic floor exercises should make a difference and all woman should be doing them anyway.. every day for the rest of their lives.

Or maybe you could look at sex mags and see about adding some toys to your play times and experiment on different positions that will make things feel 'better' for you.

I agree with Evana, it doesnt sound as though you broached the subject too brilliantly, but you got the point across. Pelvic floor exercises can work to tighten the muscles. Just a guess but if you aren't feeling very much though penetration then she may find that over time it increases her sensations as well to have more.... well... grip of you.

Perhaps suggest it nicely to her as something to try, although overall exercise helps.

Thanks for your advice. i ordered these smartballs things for her, read that it helps, will try it with her. we do use toys from time to time but am a bit worried that as they are generally bigger than me, it might not help the situation, silly right but anyways, i think i will stop and buy some flowers on way home tonite, i appologise for being an arse!

Oooooo TMI I think.

You'd have been walloped in the old days for posting such graphic stuff in BTS so soon on this board !!!

Come back Slurps - you'd have got him !! I'll give him one of these -

It could have written it all in a less 'sexualised' manner and then, I for one, wouldn't think that this is just a big, perv troll, getting his kicks by writing this sort of stuff on a girls forum.

Maybe get a penis pump. You might meet in the middle sooner of you approach the problem from both angles.

That, is one of THE funniest replies I have ever read !
I just cannot get this image out of my mind - can you imagine !!

" Now then love, roll over so I can't see your face. bite the pillow and keep your legs shut........"

Pfffffffffffffffffffffffffftt

I assume you haven't tried this particular posistion which is why you are dismissing it with so much hilarity? Might be worthwhile closing your legs and opening your mind....

Thanks all for replies. I have considered the pump but i thought it was used for masturbation purposes which my GF strictly frowns upon, especially if i was to do it alone!
will do further research into it. Mr.Mannering, believe me when i say it is a genuine problem and i didn't intend to offend anyone however i have read some of the posts on here and this is pretty tame.
thank you anyhow.

Your girlfriend doesn't' like you masturbating?

As per your other post - you've posted on here that you're doing something that "doesn't harm your fiancee - well not physically, anyway"so I find it quite odd that you're actually posting to try and help her find pleasure.

Oooooo ta - mind you, I just tried it, on the living room floor, but it was a bit like rubbing your tummy and patting your head. Not as easy as you make it out to be .


Double pfffffffffffffffffffffffftttt !!