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Ive been with my partner for 10months, sex has been fantastic and we were basically at it every day which was great, about a month ago we have got engaged and sex has gone down to twice maybe three times a week ever since, and I cant understand why, Ive spoken to partner about it and he says he hasnt been feeling himself recently due to heavy work schedule, but he loves me and still finds me attractive but its nothing to worry about, but I am worried, Ive always had a high sex drive and it suited me having it every day, we're happy in all other aspects, im just waiting for his libido to increase again and its really frustrating me, I fancy him like mad and desperatly want to get back to the 7days a week sex! im not sure of the best way to approach this without seeming like im a sex addict. Any thoughts?

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i think you've done the right thing by talking to him about it and it sounds like he's been very honest with you, too
7 days a week is alot of sex and i think if he's working hard it's unrealistic to expect sex every single day, inevitably one day it's going to decrease, you're not going to have daily sex forever.. and even 3 times a week is a fair amount.
i can see where he's coming from, i work long hours, more than my partner, and he wants sex most nights when i get home from work late, but sometimes i'm just too shattered. it's not because i don't love/fancy him, it's because i'm actually dead on my feet.
i'm not sure i have any advice as such, i just don't think it IS anything to worry about, like your partner said. having sex 3 times a week is a healthy sex life, IMO.

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I agree, every day does seem like a lot to me, and it doesnt necessarily need to be a reflection that things are bad.
He has been honest and it sounds as though there really is nothing to worry about. It hasnt died altogether, its just temporarily slowed down. Support him and just be there. You can still display your affection without having sex.
Its bound to slow down at some point so dont look too much into it, he sounds as though he has been clear and its only fair to respect that.

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talk to him, share how you feel. but careful not to make him feel like he is letting you down because he doesnt feel up to having sex quite as often.

I had the same problem with my partner. it was difficult to broach the subject without it causing arguments. In the end I found it easier to just buy a really good sex toy like this one:

http://www.lacoquette.com/playtime/delight.html

until he felt up to it again!

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