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Hello all.

I've tried looking for an answer that provides me with reassurance regarding oral sex and STDs but i've not been very successful so far. Most websites keep saying "use a condom during sex to reduce catching STDs" but mentions nothing for oral sex.

I am with a new partner with whom I have mutually agreed to have sex with however the problem is I have Hep B and he has asked me if I would be willing to give him a blowjob. Now this is not a problem for me, however my concern is will he get Hep B if I give HIM oral?

I have told him clearly that he can't give me oral until he has not got himself vaccinated to protect himself from catching it from me.

I would really appreciate any responses from other members or if someone can tell me of a forum or number to call on to get information from? My GP isn't the best place to go for advice.

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Well, my understanding is that as Hep B is a blood bourne virus - you'd need a cut or abrasion in your mouth in order to transmit it. HOWEVER, as you know there's always a risk - I'd personally say use a condom whilst you're giving him a blowjob if you're going to do it.

Also I reckon he should get his Hep B vaccination done before you have any sexual contact - but guess it depends if you can hold off that long.

You could go to your local sexual health clinic rather than your GP?...try calling NHS direct or look on thier website. They're usually a lot more accessible and helpful when it comes to this kind of thing!

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Well, my understanding is that as Hep B is a blood bourne virus - you'd need a cut or abrasion in your mouth in order to transmit it. HOWEVER, as you know there's always a risk - I'd personally say use a condom whilst you're giving him a blowjob if you're going to do it. Also I reckon he should get his Hep B vaccination done before you have any sexual contact - but guess it depends if you can hold off that long. You could go to your local sexual health clinic rather than your GP?...try calling NHS direct or look on thier website. They're usually a lot more accessible and helpful when it comes to this kind of thing!
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Hi apple_pie. Thanks for the reply.
The em-bolded part above is where my confusion lies. I have had my GP tell me that and read on several websites stating that but I have also read other statements that really confuse me, like the following extract's embolded part;

by unprotected (without a condom) penetrative sex (when the penis enters the anus, vagina or mouth) with someone who is infectious. Also by sex that draws blood with someone who is infected.
I can see how he would get Hep B if he gave me oral but if I were to give him oral and I had no cuts in my mouth, how would the virus pass onto him? Plus it would have to be blood from cut to cut in order for the virus to pass. Just blood falling on his skin wouldn't give him Hep B, it would need to be drawn into a cut with my blood mixing with his. So I am left really confused.

Can I find my local sexual health clinic via NHS Direct?

Thanks for your response

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Firstly I need to say I'm no medical expert! - what I say is not any more reliable than any of the site you've visited for your info. Best to take the advice of a professional at a sexual health clinic - but I completely understand your confusion; what you are saying is logical.

BBV are carried in bodily fluids as well as the blood - especially semen and vaginal secretions.
However - blood to blood contact is the surest way of transmitting them. I guess it would be possible for you to have a minor cut or something in your mouth without you realising, you could graze him with your teeth (!) etc. That's why it's wise to play safe...

As I said I am not a medical expert - however my good sense (!) tells me that seeing that you know you are Hep B you should minimise your chances of passing it on by not taking any unnecessary chances - no matter how small they seem. But you and your partner are adults I assume, so it's up to you what level of risk you choose to take.

Here's a link to NHS Direct - think you should be able to look a clinic up there. Best get an appointment and ask an expert for the low down!! Good luck.
http://www.nhs.uk/servicedirectories/Pages/ServiceSearchAdditional.aspx?ServiceType=SexualHealthService

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