Hi all,
I recently met the man of my dreams, he is everything I was looking for and more. We have been on 6 dates in 3 weeks, and so far I have not slept with him - not wanting to rush into anything. Its starting to get very difficult to resist, how long do you think I should wait for?
It probably seems like a strange thread, but I have jumped in to all my past relationships, and I just want to do this one right!
Thanks xx
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Okay okay, I get the general impression that its up to me 
I was reading knees' post about meeting a boy and a similar thing has happened here... I guess three weeks on and we still like each other - theres no point in waiting any longer is there? xx
I was reading knees' post about meeting a boy and a similar thing has happened here... I guess three weeks on and we still like each other - theres no point in waiting any longer is there? xx
Jump his bones !!!!!!!!
Do what feels right and don't make it too personal and important.
If sleeping with him IS personal and important to you, then you need to tell him you feel like that about it.
Otherwise, its two people, enjoying each others company and having fun, physically.
Do what feels right and don't make it too personal and important.
If sleeping with him IS personal and important to you, then you need to tell him you feel like that about it.
Otherwise, its two people, enjoying each others company and having fun, physically.
Well dang, I found my original profile and sign in ! Tis me !
I may not always be right.... but I'm never wrong.
I may not always be right.... but I'm never wrong.
It's entirely up to you! I wouldn't sleep with someone so soon, but if you want to, then go for it.
I do find the longer the build-up to sex, the more fun the Mucking Around beforehand. Plus the more you know someone the more comfortable so sex isn't so nervewracking. I would say though that 3 weeks is rather too short to believe he's the "man of your dreams" and the fact you "still" like each other after 6 dates is, er, quite normal! Don't rush in too soon, the first 3 months are known as the "honeymoon period" when everything seems great. Sleep with him too soon and you may not see him for dust - I know people will say that's not true but time and time again it is proved! but I'd wait longer to see if he likes you for you personally or just wants to get you in the sack. IMO 3 weeks isn't long enough to know any of these things.
I do find the longer the build-up to sex, the more fun the Mucking Around beforehand. Plus the more you know someone the more comfortable so sex isn't so nervewracking. I would say though that 3 weeks is rather too short to believe he's the "man of your dreams" and the fact you "still" like each other after 6 dates is, er, quite normal! Don't rush in too soon, the first 3 months are known as the "honeymoon period" when everything seems great. Sleep with him too soon and you may not see him for dust - I know people will say that's not true but time and time again it is proved! but I'd wait longer to see if he likes you for you personally or just wants to get you in the sack. IMO 3 weeks isn't long enough to know any of these things.
O/T What's the matter with the edit facility, for heavens sake?
I don't believe you can quote a Judy Blume novel 
Personally I slept with my boyfriend before we even had our first "date" - but then we'd known each other for about three years, and there was a long build up of "does s/he like me" - once we realised it was mutual there was literally no stopping us! Every situation is different. The thought that he might go off me because we slept together before we were properly "dating" did cross my mind. But the next day, when he texted to see if I wanted to go over, and when I said no I couldn't, he said "no probs, do you just want to meet for a coffee or something after work" was when, I think, I fell in love! We had an amazing start to our relationship by falling into bed together, and the romantic dates and hand-holding/star gazing/dreamy eyed moments flowed from that moment on - as did the sex Our situation, however was a bit different, and I can't say for sure whether it would have been like that had we not known each other for so long beforehand. I do think that the build up is part of the fun and anticipation when you are dating...however - the sex is also very fun!
Personally I slept with my boyfriend before we even had our first "date" - but then we'd known each other for about three years, and there was a long build up of "does s/he like me" - once we realised it was mutual there was literally no stopping us! Every situation is different. The thought that he might go off me because we slept together before we were properly "dating" did cross my mind. But the next day, when he texted to see if I wanted to go over, and when I said no I couldn't, he said "no probs, do you just want to meet for a coffee or something after work" was when, I think, I fell in love! We had an amazing start to our relationship by falling into bed together, and the romantic dates and hand-holding/star gazing/dreamy eyed moments flowed from that moment on - as did the sex Our situation, however was a bit different, and I can't say for sure whether it would have been like that had we not known each other for so long beforehand. I do think that the build up is part of the fun and anticipation when you are dating...however - the sex is also very fun!
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Sakura I don't think anyone can tell you that, it's up to you when it feels right.
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I am worried he will turn out to be the sort of %&*$# who waits patiently, happily wining and dining me until he gets what he wants, then do a disappearing act. Posted by stopfaffinabout
I have honestly never, ever met men like that. The ones who "pump and run" are the only ones I've met. By the time you've started seeing someone for a couple of months then you're in a relationship and it's very different to meeting someone, shagging them and then leaving. I really don't get this whole sinister "waiting patiently" bloke - why would a man wait patiently and spend money wining and dining someone just for sex when he can get it very easily from someone else? Some men are actually quite nice and normal and will wine and dine someone because they find them attractive and enjoy their company.
And I quote Judy Blume because she is right - once you have sex, you can't go back to holding hands. You have to have sex all the bloody time. So why not just make the most of the foreplay and the mucking around before you go all the way?
Damn, that's what my flatmate said! Hehe.
Long as there is no 'rule' that I don't know about...
Long as there is no 'rule' that I don't know about...
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. You have to have sex all the bloody time.
Posted by Lily
Posted by Lily
You sleep with him when you feel ready,it's that simple. Knowing that you will cope just fine if he turns out to be a bad one. It's your personal, mature, sexual decision, not a calculated risk thing.
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