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I have just been reading roxiesnooks post about her husband and %&*$#. I have just started a new relationship with a guy who is absolutely lovely in so many ways, he is very sweet and affectionate with me and I havent met anyone like him before, he makes me very happy. We have a good sex life as well which is the icing on the cake of our, so far, very good relationship. The reason why I'm posting is cos this morning I found his %&*$# collection by accident whilst loooking for some paracetomol. I didnt think he was into it and now I feel very uncomfortable. I was just wondering how every one else feels about %&*$#?
Whether you're comfortable with %&*$# or not is a personal thing. Me personally I couldn't care less about %&*$# as long as it doesn't become more important than our sex life. If your bloke uses %&*$# rather than be with you then I would say you have a problem.. from what you've said I can't see any need for concern.
The thing is how do YOU feel about %&*$#.. that's the question you should be answering.
The thing is how do YOU feel about %&*$#.. that's the question you should be answering.
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I know how I feel about it, I dont like it, it makes me feel disgusted and uncomfortable, my problem is what I can do to change how I feel about it and not think negatively about it in terms of my boyfriend (if thats makes sense).
I dont think its something that you can just change your views about quite so easily. You either accept it or you dont. You sound very uncomfortable about it, and im guessing that you havent told him you found his collection. Could you talk to him and say how it makes you feel? It may arise that he isnt even using it since you met... who knows?
Personally, it doesnt bother me. My bf and I have an active sex life and it doesnt interfere with our relationship. If it were causing a problem then im sure he would try to stop, however he knows im not phased by it as I feel completely confident that it doesnt undermine me.
Think about whether its something that you can deal with and then talk to him. If you can understand if and why he uses it then it may help you.
Personally, it doesnt bother me. My bf and I have an active sex life and it doesnt interfere with our relationship. If it were causing a problem then im sure he would try to stop, however he knows im not phased by it as I feel completely confident that it doesnt undermine me.
Think about whether its something that you can deal with and then talk to him. If you can understand if and why he uses it then it may help you.
I feel so stupid about it though. I feel like im too old to feel so uncomfortable about it (im 22). I guess im just surprised to learn this another side of him is a little dirty. It wouldnt be so bad but there wasnt just dvds, i saw some handcuffs and some other stuff and its just shocked me a little bit. Its kind of made me see him in a different light. Like we havent really talked about that kind of stuff and i am a big prude lol and id hate him to ask me to do stuff with him that id feel uncomfortable about. but at the same time I want to be able to please him. I find it very difficult to talk about stuff and I get so embaressed about it all.
the older i get i have actually started to meet met who dont use %&*$#, or masturbate even though thsi is quite unbelieiveable to what we are told.
%&*$# doesnt bother me, its out there its no reflection of what sex in a loving relationship or sex in general is, to me its entertainment, its a money making industry so more bizzare acts are created adn become normalised in some people minds. my and my partner do not use %&*$# but we share our own fantasies.
%&*$# doesnt bother me, its out there its no reflection of what sex in a loving relationship or sex in general is, to me its entertainment, its a money making industry so more bizzare acts are created adn become normalised in some people minds. my and my partner do not use %&*$# but we share our own fantasies.
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Yes, the Handcuffs would throw me, I could take the literature. I think you have to talk about it, otherwise it will poisen your relationship. Tell him you are happy as things are, but no way are you going further. If he can,t reassure you, end the relationship now.
Ambersparkle
Hey i spoke to my boyfriend last night, I didnt mention what I had seen but i did explain how i feel about things and that I am very uncomfortable with certain things and that I have levels to my prudiness lol. Anyway he was really good about it and we had a laugh about it in a good way. The thought of the stuff still makes me feel slightly weird but I was thinking that at least if he is looking after himself 
when im not there at least he isnt cheating.
when im not there at least he isnt cheating.
Has he given you cause to belive he may cheat dawniam?
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but I was thinking that at least if he is looking after himself when im not there at least he isnt cheating.
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Posted by dawn.i.am
Dawn, this sentence stuck out to me - use of %&*$# and likeliness to cheat have no correalation at all.
can i ask why you think they do?
Also not sure why you have to raise this wiht your bloke in a "jokey fashion" and "have a laugh" about it if it is soemthing that is a serious matter to you, as the handcuffs clearly.
I am concerned that you are comprimising yourself here which is not good...x
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