How do you show someone what you like during sex?

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Hello,

I'm just wondering, I posted about something similar a while back... so as the title goes... how do you show someone what you like during sex?

I love my new b/f to pieces and we're learning about what each other likes, but I guess if I'm honest, we haven't really talked about it. Sex is going really well, we have fun together and we're both comfortable with each other. But some of the things he does, just don't erm, hit the spot so to speak - mainly in foreplay.

How can I show him what I want and I what I like - I'm scared I'm gonna make him feel rubbish when he really isn't at all, I just want to make him even better to have sex with. I've tried moving his hand and stuff and he asks why I've done that etc... so I tell him, but he doesn't take note!

Any ideas? I'm a bit nervous to talk to him about this, I suppose I dont want to know what him and his ex got up to, but without sounding harsh, it doesn't seem much.

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Hello, I'm just wondering, I posted about something similar a while back... so as the title goes... how do you show someone what you like during sex? I love my new b/f to pieces and we're learning about what each other likes, but I guess if I'm honest, we haven't really talked about it. Sex is going really well, we have fun together and we're both comfortable with each other. But some of the things he does, just don't erm, hit the spot so to speak - mainly in foreplay. How can I show him what I want and I what I like - I'm scared I'm gonna make him feel rubbish when he really isn't at all, I just want to make him even better to have sex with. I've tried moving his hand and stuff and he asks why I've done that etc... so I tell him, but he doesn't take note! Any ideas? I'm a bit nervous to talk to him about this, I suppose I dont want to know what him and his ex got up to, but without sounding harsh, it doesn't seem much.
Posted by pinklady1410

You HAVE to talk - if you are mature/close enough to have sex you should be able to discuss it. Start off by asking him what he likes best about your sex life and what he would like to change (and listen rather than use it as a springboard!) and let the conversation flow. Good luck.

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What Coolcat said plus show him if you like being touched or whatever differently, guide his hands with yours, that in its self is a turn on to most people. I said to my new BF when we first started having sex anything you like show me and I'll do the same and that's what we do. Being open and honest and talking is the only way and its great fun.

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To get out of saying it directly you could make sure he REALLY knows that he has done something good the second he does it, I think all men love praise, which should keep him doing what you like! And instead of saying please can you do this for me.... if you told him how much you would looovvveee him to do X Y Z (and you could chicken out and make him happy all day by sending it by email/text), I think the worst that could happen is that he wouldn't do it.

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PinkLady - im exactly the same! We've only had sex 3/4 times and all was enjoyable but i tried moving his hand, and he did what i liked for a bit but that was it... i also told him not to touch me or interfere when i was on top but no, 2 minutes later his back grabbing hold of my hips... i think he has the memory of a goldfish!

Im like you, i dont want him thinking his bad or im not enjoying it, however i agree with KWills, if i want this relationship to work then we have to be honest with each other about everything so im going to follow Fat-Loui's advice and tell him how i want XYZ to occur.

Go for it PinkLady, you'll regret it if you dont.

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