Hi, not really sure how to start really. Basically I have been feeling down about myself since my teens. I can't explain it really, just feeling like i'm ugly and having no self esteem, feeling like I was useless and no-one would want me. This feeling has continued for some years now. I have now moved to London and have the perfect job, but I just feel so lonely. My friends are still in my home town although I have friends, I don't have any real close friends here. Things with guys make me feel even worse. I feel like there's something wrong with me, I'm 27, every guy I meet is interested in me at the start and then they swiftly lose interest. I guess I push them away as I can't believe they are interested in me. Then I get upset and feel like i'm worthless. Sometimes I just hate myself. If I'm really down I scratch myself on the inside on my wrist, not seriously, just enough so when I look at it I can feel better. I don't know what I'm expecting people to say I just feel so alone. Sometimes I'm fine, but when I get upset, I could just cry and cry and stay in bed all day.
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Hi Sugarbun,
Sorry no one has replied to you sooner. I rarely look at this forum, more in the relationships forum, that does seem to be the busier one so you may want to post there in future.
It sounds to me (and I'm no expert) like you could be a little bit depressed. Have you considered going to see your gp or a counsellor? Counselling has helped me and still is so I recommend being able to just go and open up to someone impartial and getting things off your chest.
You say you have made friends in London, so are you socialising with them? Getting out and about and widening your circle. As for the guys, do you think maybe you get attached too quickly in an attempt to feel happy?
You shouldn't feel worthless, you are not. You are feeling how so many other single people feel. Unloved unwanted rejected??? Try and look at the positives in your life, you have a great job which I assume you enjoy, you are young and healthy, I assume you are an attractive girl as you cearly get the attention of the fellas. Boost your confidence in thinking about the good things you have going for you. Don't focus on the negatives, they are only there because you allow them to cloud your judgments and thoughts.
Positive thoughts will give you a positive persona which other people will be attracted to.
Take lots of vitamins too, 1000mg of vitamin C every day, and something like St Johns wort or something with vitamin B6 in it, it helps with monthly mood swings associated with pre menstral issues.
Come on hun, you are better than scratching at you own arm, aren't you? You are worth more than that. I'm sure all your friends back home would agree. Don't give up on yourself just yet!
xxx
Sorry no one has replied to you sooner. I rarely look at this forum, more in the relationships forum, that does seem to be the busier one so you may want to post there in future.
It sounds to me (and I'm no expert) like you could be a little bit depressed. Have you considered going to see your gp or a counsellor? Counselling has helped me and still is so I recommend being able to just go and open up to someone impartial and getting things off your chest.
You say you have made friends in London, so are you socialising with them? Getting out and about and widening your circle. As for the guys, do you think maybe you get attached too quickly in an attempt to feel happy?
You shouldn't feel worthless, you are not. You are feeling how so many other single people feel. Unloved unwanted rejected??? Try and look at the positives in your life, you have a great job which I assume you enjoy, you are young and healthy, I assume you are an attractive girl as you cearly get the attention of the fellas. Boost your confidence in thinking about the good things you have going for you. Don't focus on the negatives, they are only there because you allow them to cloud your judgments and thoughts.
Positive thoughts will give you a positive persona which other people will be attracted to.
Take lots of vitamins too, 1000mg of vitamin C every day, and something like St Johns wort or something with vitamin B6 in it, it helps with monthly mood swings associated with pre menstral issues.
Come on hun, you are better than scratching at you own arm, aren't you? You are worth more than that. I'm sure all your friends back home would agree. Don't give up on yourself just yet!
xxx
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Hi, not really sure how to start really. Basically I have been feeling down about myself since my teens. I can't explain it really, just feeling like i'm ugly and having no self esteem, feeling like I was useless and no-one would want me. This feeling has continued for some years now. I have now moved to London and have the perfect job, but I just feel so lonely. My friends are still in my home town although I have friends, I don't have any real close friends here. Things with guys make me feel even worse. I feel like there's something wrong with me, I'm 27, every guy I meet is interested in me at the start and then they swiftly lose interest. I guess I push them away as I can't believe they are interested in me. Then I get upset and feel like i'm worthless. Sometimes I just hate myself. If I'm really down I scratch myself on the inside on my wrist, not seriously, just enough so when I look at it I can feel better. I don't know what I'm expecting people to say I just feel so alone. Sometimes I'm fine, but when I get upset, I could just cry and cry and stay in bed all day.
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Sugar, your post sounds scarily like me. Especially re the low self-esteem. I've suffered with this and depression before and am undergoing CBT to try and think differently.
I also feel like when I meet a guy he swiftly looses interest and then because I also have some difficulties with my friendships at the moment I'm also feeling upset and alone.
Is there anyone you can talk to about your low self-esteem, maybe your GP could refer you to a counsellor?
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