I found out a few weeks ago i'm pregnant, after much thought and discussion with my boyfriend we've decided the best option is an abortion, I don't feel 100% sure but deep down probably know its for the best.
I've been to the doctors and im booked in for 2 weeks time. The problem is I recently started a new job 3 months ago and so far its going well, but i've been starting to have horrendous morning sickness and feeling very tearful, this is becoming very hard to hide at work, and the bad curry excuse is wearing thin.
I work in a small office with my 2 bosses, and it's tricky to hide when I need to keep running to the toilet constantly. Also I get very tearful sudddenly, I think it's the thought of the abortion.
I really don't want to lose my job over this and obviously I don't want my bosses to know whats going on, they are both male too which doesn't help. But I really don't know what to do as I fear there will be questions asked over the next 2 weeks!
Any advice will be much appreciated.
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Firstly, try not to stress so much. Stress is evil. It wreaks havoc on your body which at this point in time, is the last thing you need. So, as hard as it may sound, try not to stress. Aleviate it by staying rested, drinking plenty of water, relaxing, and if you meditate, trying to calm yourself in the workplace.
Secondly, morning sickneess can be aided by several things. This link http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003119.htm is pretty helpful for some tips, which include: ginger, accupressure, avoiding large meals before bedtime, avoiding smoke, and others.
Lastly, this is obviously an emotional time for you so you'll need as much support as you can muster. It sounds like your boyfriend is going to be there for you and of course, please feel free to post here if you need to vent/rant/cry/scream/just talk.
Take care of yourself.
Secondly, morning sickneess can be aided by several things. This link http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003119.htm is pretty helpful for some tips, which include: ginger, accupressure, avoiding large meals before bedtime, avoiding smoke, and others.
Lastly, this is obviously an emotional time for you so you'll need as much support as you can muster. It sounds like your boyfriend is going to be there for you and of course, please feel free to post here if you need to vent/rant/cry/scream/just talk.
Take care of yourself.
I think i'm 95% sure I want to go through with the termination. It's a shame I have another 2 weeks to wait, thats the hardest part. Especially knowing the morning sickness is there to remind me all the time. My mum had awful morning sickness throughout early pregnancy with me and my brother so I doubt it will ease off.
I know the best thing is to tell one of my bosses, one of them is slightly more approachable then the other. They are brothers so inevitably one with tell the other. It really couldn't have come at a worse time as we have a really busy next few weeks with tight deadlines and I know i'm going to struggle like mad. I just hope they won't think any less of me or judge me. I'm dreading telling him, don't even know how to bring the subject up.
I know the best thing is to tell one of my bosses, one of them is slightly more approachable then the other. They are brothers so inevitably one with tell the other. It really couldn't have come at a worse time as we have a really busy next few weeks with tight deadlines and I know i'm going to struggle like mad. I just hope they won't think any less of me or judge me. I'm dreading telling him, don't even know how to bring the subject up.
Well, again, try not to focus on all the 'what if's' about your job. They can't reasonably fire you for this so at least try to reast easy there.
If it gets really bad, you may need to tell them; however, cross that bridge when you get to it, so to speak. If you trust them and feel as though you can open up to them, talk to one of them. It may put your mind at ease?
No one has the right to judge you and I suspect they won't think any less of you. Thing is, these sort of things aren't easy to deal with and you shouldn't have to deal with it on your own. Support in the workplace is always a good thing. Is there someone else you can have a word with?
If it gets really bad, you may need to tell them; however, cross that bridge when you get to it, so to speak. If you trust them and feel as though you can open up to them, talk to one of them. It may put your mind at ease?
No one has the right to judge you and I suspect they won't think any less of you. Thing is, these sort of things aren't easy to deal with and you shouldn't have to deal with it on your own. Support in the workplace is always a good thing. Is there someone else you can have a word with?
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I. I know the best thing is to tell one of my bosses, one of them is slightly more approachable then the other. I just hope they won't think any less of me or judge me. I'm dreading telling him, don't even know how to bring the subject up.
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Unless its really necessary, my advice would be to not say anything about what you are doing. I'm not sure why you think the best thing is to tell them, but I don't think it would be a good idea, as clearly, many many people feel very strongly about the subject and on this one, its almost impossible to not judge, if you do feel strongly - you don't seem to know them very well.
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No one has the right to judge you and I suspect they won't think any less of you. Posted by AngieBaby
But, people do have the right to judge one if one does something that they feel is morally wrong.
If you don't know what someones views are about this,. I would still say that its best to try not to bring it into work. What ever the rights or wrongs, I think the OP will have enough on her plate afterwards, without worrying about whether her bosses are judging her.
Hopefully, she'll pick up the peices and move on qickly and forget about it - if thats the desired intention, then why would you involve anyone unless absolutely necessary ?? The very least amount involved would be the best, then its better to move on quicker, if less people know
But as this isn't s debate..... as we know - my advice, would still be - best not to involve work, if it can be avoided..
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I agree with the other posters, if you don't know your bosses very well, I wouldn't confide this to them. People can have very different and very strong views regarding abortion.
Also, abortion can be a very stressful thing. Especially afterwards as you still have pregnancy hormones floating around your body.
I wouldn't say anything and then if you need time off work for and after the abortion, just tell them it was due to gynacological difficulties. Your GP can give you a sick note with the phrase gynacological difficulties if needed.
Hope you're ok.
Also, abortion can be a very stressful thing. Especially afterwards as you still have pregnancy hormones floating around your body.
I wouldn't say anything and then if you need time off work for and after the abortion, just tell them it was due to gynacological difficulties. Your GP can give you a sick note with the phrase gynacological difficulties if needed.
Hope you're ok.
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Couldn't read this and not post. I recently went through an abortion and so thought if you had any questions, it might be good to have someone to talk to too. PM me if you'd like to chat. I agree with other posters though, don't involve your new bosses if you don't have too. Due to the nature of this, you can never tell how they may react and personal opinion could quickly over rule professionalism. It shouldn't but it could. I hope you are alright. Take care of yourself.
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Couldn't read this and not post. I recently went through an abortion and so thought if you had any questions, it might be good to have someone to talk to too. PM me if you'd like to chat. I agree with other posters though, don't involve your new bosses if you don't have too. Due to the nature of this, you can never tell how they may react and personal opinion could quickly over rule professionalism. It shouldn't but it could. I hope you are alright. Take care of yourself.
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Hi again.
I'd also like to add (and I hope I'm not too late) that if you're not 100% sure about this decision, please seek some advice or councilling before going through with. I hope that doesn't confuse you.
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Personally, I wouldnt share this information with a new boss unless you can really help it. As posted above, you can get the appropriate sick note if required. However, as Janey pointed out, you may want to consider counselling as you may find it difficult as it gets closer to the date and after the termination. Hope your ok, it sounds as though your bf is supporting you which is exactly what you need right now.
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