Hi Baggers,
Well i just joined today i have always read forums on handbag but never replied to any, well basically i am almost 32, i feel like my whole life has been really confusing and i never had any desire or motivation to improve or better my life, i went through a traumatic and horrid childhood which i felt was the root of my problem, was raped my step father at the age of 7 and it happened up until i was 15 and this is when i moved to the UK.
Without going into too much detail i never really had a good relationship with my mother, i am over weight now and have combination of health problems and i know they could be improved by losing weight but i never have the motivation to do anything.
I have worked for about 4 years now, i went through a period in my life where i went shopping everyday and got myself into debt big time, when i had no money left i am ashamed to admit i started stealing stuff for no reason, usually just cosmetics for some reason. and never really used them.
now i just have no motivation for nothing in my life...why am i behaing this way, and please note i am not trying to get sympathy i just want some help and advice.
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Welcome to the Bag Meena77
First of all, I don't want to sound patronising but sorry to hear about your childhood and resulting problems - have you ever spoken to anyone professionally about what happened to you as this could help you close that chapter of your life and move on - it's not for everyone but it can help for some people.
There is also a lot of advice around at the moment aimed at people stuggling financially, so it would be worth contacting these places and getting some advice, the quicker you attack debts head on the sooner they will all be paid off!
I can't answer why you 'are behaving in this way' everyone deals with lifes events differently, but I can share my own experiences.
I too am overweight - looking at my BMI I'm technically obese, but who wants that label?! Up until recently (from Nov '08 - April '09) I was desperately unhappy. I didn't know what with but I wasn't my usual self, I stopped doing anything apart from working and going home. I blamed it on the pressures of shift work and used work as an excuse to avoid meeting friends but when it came down to it, I was unhappy with my size and how I looked so I shut myself away.
Fast forward to July '09, and I've lost 11.5lbs through WeightWatchers and I can honestly say I'm starting to feel happier in my own skin. Personally, I think it's down to me focusing on myself and it's starting to pay off.
Now I'm not saying that losing weight will solve your problems, but if your unhappy make a change. Motivation is hard to find, and it took me seeing awful photos of myself at a close friends wedding to realise enough is enough.
It's worth popping along to your GP for a chat about how your feeling and see what they can recommend. But well done you for realising that all is not well and for asking for help/advice, it really is the first step.
Good luck.
kb.x
First of all, I don't want to sound patronising but sorry to hear about your childhood and resulting problems - have you ever spoken to anyone professionally about what happened to you as this could help you close that chapter of your life and move on - it's not for everyone but it can help for some people.
There is also a lot of advice around at the moment aimed at people stuggling financially, so it would be worth contacting these places and getting some advice, the quicker you attack debts head on the sooner they will all be paid off!
I can't answer why you 'are behaving in this way' everyone deals with lifes events differently, but I can share my own experiences.
I too am overweight - looking at my BMI I'm technically obese, but who wants that label?! Up until recently (from Nov '08 - April '09) I was desperately unhappy. I didn't know what with but I wasn't my usual self, I stopped doing anything apart from working and going home. I blamed it on the pressures of shift work and used work as an excuse to avoid meeting friends but when it came down to it, I was unhappy with my size and how I looked so I shut myself away.
Fast forward to July '09, and I've lost 11.5lbs through WeightWatchers and I can honestly say I'm starting to feel happier in my own skin. Personally, I think it's down to me focusing on myself and it's starting to pay off.
Now I'm not saying that losing weight will solve your problems, but if your unhappy make a change. Motivation is hard to find, and it took me seeing awful photos of myself at a close friends wedding to realise enough is enough.
It's worth popping along to your GP for a chat about how your feeling and see what they can recommend. But well done you for realising that all is not well and for asking for help/advice, it really is the first step.
Good luck.
kb.x
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