I broke up with my ex a few months ago - a total relief which was a long time coming! I feel mostly a sense of freedom, it's great!
WELL, I met a lovely guy the other week. He's actually a friend of a friend and we've known each other for awhile, though only through my friend. Anyways, a few weeks ago I had a dinner party for a friend's birthday and she invited him...I love throwing dinner parties, so I went totally OTT and laid out a massive feast. The guy was pretty much raving about the food and kept telling me (and everyone else) how good it was. Afterwards we all went out for a walk and everyone else raced back to the house but the two of us just walked around the block with my dog for a bit before headng back to the house. He was really easy to talk to!
Two weeks later I had another dinner party for the original friend's boyfriend's birthday - again I volunteered to cook. Well this guy tells the birthday couple he wants to help me cook. I thought it was kind of sweet ...anyways it turns out he loves to cook as well, but the kitchen in his flat is pretty basic so he doesn't get the chance to. We were just joking around and having a good time, we both love talking about food so there wasn't really a lull in the conversation once we started talking.
He's goodlooking, polite, a lovely guy, and he's great with my dog. We're into a lot of the same stuff, and we were totally saying stuff out of each others mouths all night.
SO, a bunch of us are going to a gig at the end of the month. Everyone is going to be there, including some folk who don't know him but who do know I have a crush on him. I have no idea if he's interested, so I don't want him to get weirded out by my friends eying him up and making not so subtle 'nudge nudge wink wink' comments. usually I have an inkling whether a guy fancies me or not, but he is so darned outgoing that I can't tell if he's flirting or just being himself.
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ooh this sounds exciting!
From what you've said, it sounds as though he is quite interested, and there's definitely some chemistry between you, but I can understand you being cautious if he's generally an outgoing guy.
Maybe just try and get him on his own a bit (or maybe you won't even have to try!) to kinda gauge if there is something there.
How do u want to move things forward if u do think he's interested... or do you want him to make the first move?
From what you've said, it sounds as though he is quite interested, and there's definitely some chemistry between you, but I can understand you being cautious if he's generally an outgoing guy.
Maybe just try and get him on his own a bit (or maybe you won't even have to try!) to kinda gauge if there is something there.
How do u want to move things forward if u do think he's interested... or do you want him to make the first move?
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Ever since I've been trying to think up excuses to run into him at his work, but then last week totally by chance I ran into him in town! He seemed quite happy to see me (though he's always been really nice and friendly, even when we didn't know each other particularly well) and we ended up chatting for ages...I'd dropped off a wee pressie for him at his mum and a dad's (food) when me and my friend went to see them, and he sounded dead excited about it. I just still couldn't tell is he was being flirty or not, but he seemed genuinely happy to see me and we were laughing pretty much the whole time.
I texted him last night because my dog had possibly eaten something he shouldn't have (turns out he'd just hidden it) and he replied not too long after to say not to worry...our friend texted him at the same time (he didn't know the guy was at mine) and he never replied to him. Anyways, I sent him what I hoped was a funny reply but didn't really expect him to text back.
I don't know if I'm reading too much into things, but he usually just texts me to reply (his friends say that's kinda par for the course from him) though he always sounds super-enthusiastic when de does. I'm nervous about making a move because my best friend is pretty much like a sister to him. I'm terrible at that kind of thing, and in the past I've just made any excuse to see them on a night out and blurted something out when tipsy. Seeing as the last time I did that I wound up with a guy who turned out to be a jackass, I kinda don't want to go the liquid courage route because, well, I'd rather not go with a guy who's happy to take me home when I've had a bit too much! Not that I drink much anymore anyways!
If I knew what to say so I didn't sound like a total weirdo (and I don't want him thinking I've been friendly recently just because I fancy him, because that's not the case...I just get on with him and am pretty chuffed at making a new friend who I've got loads in common with), I'd maybe mention something at the night out. But I don't know what to say...
Oh dear, I usually am quite a coherent individual, but he really does make me go a bit nutty.
I texted him last night because my dog had possibly eaten something he shouldn't have (turns out he'd just hidden it) and he replied not too long after to say not to worry...our friend texted him at the same time (he didn't know the guy was at mine) and he never replied to him. Anyways, I sent him what I hoped was a funny reply but didn't really expect him to text back.
I don't know if I'm reading too much into things, but he usually just texts me to reply (his friends say that's kinda par for the course from him) though he always sounds super-enthusiastic when de does. I'm nervous about making a move because my best friend is pretty much like a sister to him. I'm terrible at that kind of thing, and in the past I've just made any excuse to see them on a night out and blurted something out when tipsy. Seeing as the last time I did that I wound up with a guy who turned out to be a jackass, I kinda don't want to go the liquid courage route because, well, I'd rather not go with a guy who's happy to take me home when I've had a bit too much! Not that I drink much anymore anyways!
If I knew what to say so I didn't sound like a total weirdo (and I don't want him thinking I've been friendly recently just because I fancy him, because that's not the case...I just get on with him and am pretty chuffed at making a new friend who I've got loads in common with), I'd maybe mention something at the night out. But I don't know what to say...
Oh dear, I usually am quite a coherent individual, but he really does make me go a bit nutty.
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It's so exciting when things are in the early stages!
You say that you're chuffed you've made a new friend but be careful that you don't give the impression that you only want to be friends if you want more - and definitely stay away from alcohol!
The gig could be a great opportunity to spend some time getting to know him so just take it easy and be yourself. If he likes you too, he'll make it clear that he's interested.
FJP x
You say that you're chuffed you've made a new friend but be careful that you don't give the impression that you only want to be friends if you want more - and definitely stay away from alcohol!
The gig could be a great opportunity to spend some time getting to know him so just take it easy and be yourself. If he likes you too, he'll make it clear that he's interested.
FJP x
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Some friends and I went to the place he works last night as he's always saying we should stop by, as soon as I got there I asked one of the barmen if he was about (I was on my own, my friends were taking ages) and once I said my name he said 'are you the girl who cooked that amazing dinner?' and proceeded to tell me I'd made quite an impression.
I'd not been plannign to go out last night as I had loads of uni work, but I stopped off tog et a coffee in town and got a text from him apologising for taking ages to reply after the weekend, but he's been working stupid shifts. So I sent him a possibly slightly flirty message back saying I expect nothing less (as he's known for taking ages to reply to people), but that I just assumed it was part of his charm. And I mentioned I might head in to his work later, but told him to send me me home after one drink as I had loads of work to do. I know he definitely got my message because he made a joke about it later, but he was pretty much rushed off his feet when we turned up so didnt get a chance to really chat to him.
I'm definitely looking forward to the gig, everyone's scored the next day off so I think all the people coming are back at mine for a party after.
Still don't know if he's interested as my friend and I went round to his after he got off work and hung out with his flat mates whilst he got showered...I was just chatting away to the guys in the flat so I didn't seem like I was only there cuz I fancy him, but I don't know if that came across wrong! Ack! I'm so terrible at this!
I'd not been plannign to go out last night as I had loads of uni work, but I stopped off tog et a coffee in town and got a text from him apologising for taking ages to reply after the weekend, but he's been working stupid shifts. So I sent him a possibly slightly flirty message back saying I expect nothing less (as he's known for taking ages to reply to people), but that I just assumed it was part of his charm. And I mentioned I might head in to his work later, but told him to send me me home after one drink as I had loads of work to do. I know he definitely got my message because he made a joke about it later, but he was pretty much rushed off his feet when we turned up so didnt get a chance to really chat to him.
I'm definitely looking forward to the gig, everyone's scored the next day off so I think all the people coming are back at mine for a party after.
Still don't know if he's interested as my friend and I went round to his after he got off work and hung out with his flat mates whilst he got showered...I was just chatting away to the guys in the flat so I didn't seem like I was only there cuz I fancy him, but I don't know if that came across wrong! Ack! I'm so terrible at this!
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!!!
Well, the gig was fabulous, the music was spot on and then I had everyone back to mine for a party after...spent prett much the whole time in the other room (everyone else was in the sitting room) chatting to the guy I like about pretty much everything - he'd been a little bit flirty all night but so had his friend, so I wasn't sure if he was interested or not. My friend kept saying to go for it (and i have a funny feelign she was telling him the same but she claims not)! ANyways, at one point we were just sitting on the couch and he put an arm around me - people kept coming in and talkign to us for a bit then leaving...eventually we just ended up hanging out in my room as the party was still in full swing and we were pretty tired...
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Well, the gig was fabulous, the music was spot on and then I had everyone back to mine for a party after...spent prett much the whole time in the other room (everyone else was in the sitting room) chatting to the guy I like about pretty much everything - he'd been a little bit flirty all night but so had his friend, so I wasn't sure if he was interested or not. My friend kept saying to go for it (and i have a funny feelign she was telling him the same but she claims not)! ANyways, at one point we were just sitting on the couch and he put an arm around me - people kept coming in and talkign to us for a bit then leaving...eventually we just ended up hanging out in my room as the party was still in full swing and we were pretty tired...
!!!!
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