I'm a journalist and recently interviewed someone who I've known since they started to their current height of success. I've always liked him, felt comfortable around him and respected his work... Fancy the pants off him too.
So, I offer to interview him - which we could easily have done via email and he flies me out instead to his office. I spend the day with him and then join his company at their Christmas party. There is an air bed ready and waiting for me at his and no chat before about whether anything romantic will happen between us. After being invited I sleep in his bed, in my pi's, which bottom half, stay on all night. I wouldn't have sex with him because as I honestly said 'I like him too much'. We had a great day together the day before; lots of super cute, teenage romantic stuff, great night together, woke curled up together and then had a lovely long, innocent shower together. I know random, but both hungover to hell, so washing each others hair and being kind to one another. After being taken to breakfast he asks if I've had a nice trip and whether I would visit again. I ask if he'd like me to come see him again and he says yes. He then says he'd like to see me in my city and we both have a lovely snogathon and smiliest together. I then got get my plane.
When I get home... I think to myself I probably shan't hear from him... unless its work related. I email thanking him, let him proof the interview and put the sleepover down as a lovely moment. He emails back and repeats that he wishes to see me again... and then begins a week of non-stop emailing between us. Christmas comes and I email him, he emails back and then.... Silence! Nothing. Quiet.
We hadn't made definite plans as to when we could see one another again - both have work commitments. But we had agreed that we really liked one another and that as such, no panic - we'd see once again
So, I don't think I'm unreasonable to be upset that I've heard nothing from him and I also don't think I'd be silly to think that that's it with him. I sent him a NYE email a couple of days ago - excusing the fact that I'd been out of signal ad unavailable. But still nothing - although I see him answering other peoples questions on Facebook.
I'm really confused. He was the one who came after me!
Any pearls of wisdom ?
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I didn't hear anything for over two weeks and then he emails me yesterday saying his been super busy, that he sends his best wishes and that he hopes to see me sometime soon in London.
I sent him a HNY email three days before and then he sends the above.
I haven't responded. I don't know what to say. I'm feeling really weary of him. Would love to see him again and would love for something to happen between us... and that's the problem. I really like him and as such, he has the capacity to hurt and confuse me. I can't do long distance with a man that goes quiet.
Not sure what to do. I know he isn't mean and that he is lovely... but I don't know what to do.
I sent him a HNY email three days before and then he sends the above.
I haven't responded. I don't know what to say. I'm feeling really weary of him. Would love to see him again and would love for something to happen between us... and that's the problem. I really like him and as such, he has the capacity to hurt and confuse me. I can't do long distance with a man that goes quiet.
Not sure what to do. I know he isn't mean and that he is lovely... but I don't know what to do.
Try to get on with your life - this IS long distance and you're not going to get full disclosure after one lovely trip together unfortunately.
You're not going to get an answer/game plan from him at this stage from the sounds of it. I think you need to see how this thing plays out. But don't put all your eggs in one basket and rely on him/it working out.
Best of luck
LL
You're not going to get an answer/game plan from him at this stage from the sounds of it. I think you need to see how this thing plays out. But don't put all your eggs in one basket and rely on him/it working out.
Best of luck
LL
Thanks LL for responding and yes... you're totally right and everything you've said makes total sense to me. It's logical, it's right... Really good advice and totally gonna subscribe to it... Just gotta stop the evil 'over thinker' within me getting all confused and upset.
So silly... He flew to LA today and I only know that through Facebook. We've been emailing the last week or so none stop, but again.... doesn't mean anything. Obviously both like one another. But seriously... I need to like him a little less and stop feeling anxious. That's to do with me.. It can't be to do with him.. because I don't know him and he isn't really a factor in my life... It's just that I'd like him to be. Wish I could be patient and calm. How attractive would that be... Both inwardly and outwardly. Sounds silly, but if he just gave me a date to say when he is coming to my city then I'd be much happier... but he doesn't because the nature of his job and his life means he can't... The princess in me expects him to jump on a plane and see me... because, hey, wouldn't you do that if you really liked someone? I forget that life and work can get in the way...
So silly... He flew to LA today and I only know that through Facebook. We've been emailing the last week or so none stop, but again.... doesn't mean anything. Obviously both like one another. But seriously... I need to like him a little less and stop feeling anxious. That's to do with me.. It can't be to do with him.. because I don't know him and he isn't really a factor in my life... It's just that I'd like him to be. Wish I could be patient and calm. How attractive would that be... Both inwardly and outwardly. Sounds silly, but if he just gave me a date to say when he is coming to my city then I'd be much happier... but he doesn't because the nature of his job and his life means he can't... The princess in me expects him to jump on a plane and see me... because, hey, wouldn't you do that if you really liked someone? I forget that life and work can get in the way...
You're a journalist? Really? I couldn't understand half of your post as it was written so awkwardly.
Anyway, famous person, long-distance, getting sexy without any idea where it's all going, and now you left hanging, wondering where it will all end up.
Doesn't sound like the ideal situation to me.
Not if you want a relationship anyway. I think if someone wants to be with you, you know. They don't leave you hanging about wondering, and waiting for them to be in the driving seat.
Anyway, famous person, long-distance, getting sexy without any idea where it's all going, and now you left hanging, wondering where it will all end up.
Doesn't sound like the ideal situation to me.
Not if you want a relationship anyway. I think if someone wants to be with you, you know. They don't leave you hanging about wondering, and waiting for them to be in the driving seat.
Maybe it was written awkwardly because I feel awkward about the situation and writing on here. Thanks for the advice.
Actually, your tone isn't very nice and you've made me feel particularly uncomfortable and stupid by critiquing my writing. I didn't come on here for you to criticise me, I came on here for a friendly word of advice.
Then I'm very sorry for upsetting you.
Actually I agree with wau.. this is going to go nowhere. In my experience there is no second guessing when it comes to being with somebody you like.. it just is.
And there is no such thing as an innocent shower.. if you had offered sex to him then he would have taken it.. and you probably would still be in the situation you're in now but feeling a million times worse.
Put it down to experience and move on.
And there is no such thing as an innocent shower.. if you had offered sex to him then he would have taken it.. and you probably would still be in the situation you're in now but feeling a million times worse.
Put it down to experience and move on.
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