Hi all
Ive not used this site for a very long time but wondered if anyone was able to help me. I've recently been feeling like I don't fit in anywhere, even with my good friends. I feel like I have nothing to say, like I'm stuck in my own little world. I feel like I have no personality & must be so boring to be around. They are all really funny and know what to say and how to join in but I just feel like I shouldn't be there. It's even worse when I'm in a group, I go really quiet and just listen.
I think I've always been a bit like this but it's getting worse, I have had a pretty bad time recently and wondered whether its a bit of depression? I just don't see the point of me being here at the moment because I don't bring anything to peoples lives?
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Hi Carla, I hate to say it but you do sound a bit depressed, yes... I know it's easy to say, but please don't feel like you bring nothing to other people's lives, because I'm sure it's not true. It's easy to think that, but a lot of people would miss you if you weren't here... And maybe your friends think the same way about you as you do about them - that you're witty and lovely. Depression can really twist how you see things and perceive yourself.
Have you thought about going to your doctor to talk about it and see if they can help? It doesn't have to be medication - they might be able to offer you something like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help change the way you look at things from inside rather than from medication if you'd prefer.
Have you thought about going to your doctor to talk about it and see if they can help? It doesn't have to be medication - they might be able to offer you something like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy to help change the way you look at things from inside rather than from medication if you'd prefer.
Hi Aestivalis, thanks so much for your reply. I have made a doctors appointment for tomorrow, see what happens. Thank you x
Hey Carla 
Aestivalis was so right, depression can and does twist the way you feel about yourself and others.
You have to stay positive and learn to love yourself. That's actually really difficult to do when you're feeling low but it does help a LOT!
What happened when you went to see your doctor?
Hope they had some fab advice for you {hugs} x
Aestivalis was so right, depression can and does twist the way you feel about yourself and others.You have to stay positive and learn to love yourself. That's actually really difficult to do when you're feeling low but it does help a LOT!
What happened when you went to see your doctor?
Hope they had some fab advice for you {hugs} x
Carla, I hope everything went well for you at the doctor's. x
I didnt go.....stupidly I chickened out. I have emailed a counsellor/hypnotherapist this morning though as I think I may have social anxiety?? Maybe as well as a bit of depression. Just waiting for him to get back to me. Thank you for your kind advice x
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I didnt go.....stupidly I chickened out. I have emailed a counsellor/hypnotherapist this morning though as I think I may have social anxiety?? Maybe as well as a bit of depression. Just waiting for him to get back to me. Thank you for your kind advice x
Hey! You did the right thing..I hope you feel better soon. But in addition to all that has been said, I think age, too plays an important role on these kind of moods. I myself experienced it something similar. But many people were living such problems at that age..So don't worry, it is probably a tough temporary term that you should go through..
I wouldn't diagnose yourself. My advice, is that you make another appointment to see your GP. I know you're scared, but the doctor isn't there to scare you! I've been to the doctor over issues like this, and it has really helped. I was scared, too, but you have to face your fears to recover. You won't be locked up! Good luck and do talk to somebody.
If you are nervous about the GP go to an open clinic and talk to them I am sure they will help you figure out whether this is a serious problem or not.
I have depression myself and have had for years I can tell you it has to be something really big to put you into this kind of state of mind. It is never something small and maybe something not to do with your friends so talk to a counsellor someone you feel is more comfortable to talk to.
If it turns out that you do have either or then you aren't alone as there are many of us out there but don't sweat it until you know for sure and find good supports. Take Care Stella
http://www.depressionuk.org/groups.html
http://www.depression-understood.org/information/uknational.htm
I have depression myself and have had for years I can tell you it has to be something really big to put you into this kind of state of mind. It is never something small and maybe something not to do with your friends so talk to a counsellor someone you feel is more comfortable to talk to.
If it turns out that you do have either or then you aren't alone as there are many of us out there but don't sweat it until you know for sure and find good supports. Take Care Stella
http://www.depressionuk.org/groups.html
http://www.depression-understood.org/information/uknational.htm
http://www.janeausten.co.uk/forum/
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