Our sex life is non existent. I have been with my missus for 10 years and fancy her as much now as I did when we first got together, however our sex life is now non existent.
We last had sex 10 months ago.....
I don't want to make a big thing out of it, or bring it up in conversation as I want her to want to do want it herself, rather than feel obliged because I want to.
How on earth do I get out of this rut?
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Hiya Jonny,
I don't think much good can come from keeping this quiet from your missus...you need to discuss this with her. Sex is so important in a relationship & thankfully after 10 years you are still hot for one another.
However it is difficult to just start a conversation about such a delicate matter so if all else fails just come onto her (lol), make her feel your passion for her!!!
Good luck...
I don't think much good can come from keeping this quiet from your missus...you need to discuss this with her. Sex is so important in a relationship & thankfully after 10 years you are still hot for one another.
However it is difficult to just start a conversation about such a delicate matter so if all else fails just come onto her (lol), make her feel your passion for her!!!
Good luck...
Jonny
You have nothing to gain from keeping quiet - I would sensitively broach the subject at an opportune moment - make it very clear that you want her as much as you did at the start, but tell her that you want to be able to show her.
I am in exactly the same (but opposite) situation and had to have that conversation just yesterday.
I think you owe it to yourself and to her to be open about this, otherwise you will fester upon it and end up being unhappy.
You have nothing to gain from keeping quiet - I would sensitively broach the subject at an opportune moment - make it very clear that you want her as much as you did at the start, but tell her that you want to be able to show her.
I am in exactly the same (but opposite) situation and had to have that conversation just yesterday.
I think you owe it to yourself and to her to be open about this, otherwise you will fester upon it and end up being unhappy.
Hi Jonny
Just out of interest do you/she have children? I am asking because after the birth of my last 2 children I went off sex for ages.
Either way I think the other posters are right. Approach the subject gently/delicately. Explain to her how you feel and how attractive you find her, she may need to hear it
Just out of interest do you/she have children? I am asking because after the birth of my last 2 children I went off sex for ages.
Either way I think the other posters are right. Approach the subject gently/delicately. Explain to her how you feel and how attractive you find her, she may need to hear it
Jonny
Amble over to the following web site:
wwwDOTexperienceprojectDOTcom and search for a group called "I Live In A Sexless Marriage". There are thousands of contributors there who constantly share their experiences, fears, frustrations; both men AND women.
Read as much as you can take at first, then pose your question when ready.
P.S. There are one or two prime asshole contributors there as there are elsewhere. Don't allow them to put you off your stroke. (Ahem!)
Amble over to the following web site:
wwwDOTexperienceprojectDOTcom and search for a group called "I Live In A Sexless Marriage". There are thousands of contributors there who constantly share their experiences, fears, frustrations; both men AND women.
Read as much as you can take at first, then pose your question when ready.
P.S. There are one or two prime asshole contributors there as there are elsewhere. Don't allow them to put you off your stroke. (Ahem!)
If for whatever reason, you don't feel like you can speak to her, try showing her! Little touches and caresses... buy her some sexy undies and ask her to model them... or even write her a love letter...
There are plenty of ways to show how you feel (although, obviously, talking to her is the best method!)
There are plenty of ways to show how you feel (although, obviously, talking to her is the best method!)
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