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Hello, me and my boyfriend are planning to get married at the end of this year around Christmas time.

We're in the really early stages of planning. Neither of us want anything big as we don't like being the centre of attention. We also don't want to spend much money as we're saving to buy a house and that is our priority (so we'll aim to spend £3k max on the wedding and honeymoon). Also there are family issues, my mum has already told me she won't go to my wedding if we invite my dad's wife, but we want to invite her.

So.... the ideas on the table are:

Get married in a registry office in our closest city with nobody invited, no friends no family, just us two and don't tell anyone that we're doing it. After we're married we'll drive straight to the airport, get on a plane and go to New Zealand and Fiji for an amazing three week honeymoon! Whilst we're there we will find a secluded beach and say vows to each other. Then tell everyone when we get back from our "Holiday" that we are married and face mixed reactions of anger,upset and hopefully happiness - eeek!

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Same plan, except invite close family and friends to the ceremony, then go somewhere for a meal after to celebrate and then go to the airport and same as above. This is honestly what I'd prefer but this means inviting my dad and his wife and my mum and will cause some problems and awkwardness with my mum - she might not even come - and this will be horrible.

OR

As the first plan but tell everyone what we're doing but send no invites and just and say to people "if you want to come to the ceremony than that's fine but there's no party afterwards", and I'll tell my mum that Dad and his wife might come but we haven't technically invited them! Cop out!

What do you think? Does anyone have any experience of these complications in planning a wedding and do you have any advice?

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I would say option 2 or 3. As tempting as option 1 is you might alienate too many people. I dont think that you need a cop out and should tell your mum that this is one day that is about you and your happiness and that it means everything to have both of your parents there to see her married, and you are not going to feel guilty about it. Leave it as her choice, at the moment its too easy for her to threaten it but when it comes to the last minute, is she going to miss seeing her little girl get married?

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Hi, have you had a look at www.millbrookestate.co.uk. They offer small intimate weddings and even offer a runaway package for the bride and groom!

Just remember its your day - not your families!