Behavioural Problems in Adults

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Can anyone help or does anyone have any advice? Urgently needed.

My son 24 is refusing to leave my home after an outburst of what I can only call threatening behaviour towards me. It has happened before and for many years. I believe that he has been suffering from some kind of behavioural problem since childhood and I'v been through school suspensions, exclusions, public arrests, court cases for the last 15 years.

After fighting a tribuna for 3 years for DLA, I have managed to get him lower rate of DLA which is a complete injustice really. Although he gladly receives this money he lives in complete denial that anything is wrong and blames me for everything. I've been to the GP, hospital docs, family, counsellors, you name it, but there doesn't seem to be anyone who can help me help him and the only way forwrad apparently is to get the police involved which would be incredibly messy and not treat the cause for my son. Any ideas?

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I would call someone from a specialist mental health charity for advice.

I thought MH services had changed fairly recently so that you could self-refer but I am not sure any more. And would definitely advise you to speak to someone who has more expertise in the matter.

Take a look at this page, which may help you:

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/mentalhealth/Pages/Helplines.aspx

I hope it helps. Good luck, it must be very frightening for you. Here's something that may help you too:
http://www.nhs.uk/carersdirect/Pages/CarersDirectHome.aspx

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Can anyone help or does anyone have any advice? Urgently needed.

....I've been to the GP, hospital docs, family, counsellors, you name it, but there doesn't seem to be anyone who can help me help him and the only way forwrad apparently is to get the police involved which would be incredibly messy and not treat the cause for my son. Any ideas?

What has HE been doing to help himself though? Hss 24! This could be anything (ADHD, autism, personality disorder, attachment disorder, bipolar) or just plain old 'being a little sh*t', but I suspect you may have to employ some 'tough love' here. Theres a lot of this about as perents are unwilling to make rules so that they can avoid conflict, especially for single mums (dont know if you are but Im getting that sense) & it basically comes down to lack of boundaries & respect, & giving in too much. Can you get any clues from how his father is? These things can be hereditary.

Sorry, I know thats not very nice to hear & you must be frantic. The police may not be the worst thing you do, he needs to grow up & face the consequences of his actions, & perhaps hes never had to before?

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